The Ring--What happens to it? leem03: I decide to go to my jewelery box & get out my ring which I haven't been wearing for months. It looks so beautiful on my finger. Bright & shiny....Perfect!
So what have you all done with your rings? I've thought about keeping mine for my daughter. So that when she grows up she will at least be able to have one symbol of the love her dad & I once shared.
I don't think I could bear to part with it any other way. Not sell it, trade it in, take it apart & make it into something else. It seems to perfect, like our lives once were.
Maybe when I'm done hoping for this marriage to get fixed, I will be better to let the ring go along with all of my other emotional ties to my married life.
Re:The Ring--What happens to it? PiscesGoddess: Man leem, this reminds of a thread of mine from about 100 threads ago..LOL.. I gave mine back to my ex..then wanted it back...not for sentimental reasons..didnt want any reminders of the pain that bas**rd caused me..I wanted to sell it! To make a long story short , he wanted me to "prostitute" myself to him for it..have sex with me..and I'll give your ring.. Needless to say I didnt do it! I think I told him to shove it..Anyway, he ended up selling it to me for a hundred bucks.. 4 years of marriage..wait a minute..3 years of marriage.. reduced to a hundred bucks.. He ended up trading it in for a watch that cost 1000... imagine that? He always ended up with the better end of the deal.. Where in Gods name am I going with this? LOL... Obviously still a tad bitter about my ex...
Anyway..if you want to keep it for your daughter.. I think thats great.. on the other hand.. (no pun intended) its nice to let go... My first ex gave me his moms engagement ring from her disastrous marriage to his dad.. I somehow knew that ring carried divorce with it.. Does that sound strange? Anyway.. just my 2 cents..my story.. and what happened to my ring...
Good luck on what you decide ;D
Hugs
Pisces
Re:The Ring--What happens to it? picadilly: Yes, keep it & store it away in a safety deposit box somewhere. Keep it safe & don't get it out till your daughter graduates then maybe give it to her then. My wife left me her wedding rings & all the jewelry I gave her & all the stuff she got at our wedding. She left them for me. So I have both our rings & no kids to give them to, like you have. I've been told by friends I should get them melted down to make something else, if I ever get married again, i will not use the same rings anyway. Maybe, not yet though, the wound is still fresh.
Re:The Ring--What happens to it? bamboo: I have taken my rings out from time to time and put them on too. I HATE the fact that I can't wear them anymore - I LOVE them and they look so good on my finger.
Since I have no children, I am just going to put them in a safe deposit box for now. Maybe one day I'll sell them, along with all the other jewelry he gave me, but I'm not ready to let go of them just yet. It is a hard decision to make - sell or keep??
My stbx asked for the rings but I refused to give them to him. He probably would have sold them for drugs anyway....
Re:The Ring--What happens to it? ChristyM: Well, my situation is kind of interesting in that my s2bx is a jeweler. Soooooo, my wedding set is beautiful. Also, two years ago for our 10th anniversary he upgraded the diamond so the diamond in my ring is HUGE and I wear the original diamond on a pendant around my neck and that wasn't any small diamond to begin with. Now I have two diamonds that used to mean something to me that I have a hard time deciding what to do with. The one around my neck I still wear daily and I guess the other will just have to stay in the jewelry box until the appropriate time comes. I would assume when I get remarried that he (my new husband - seems weird to type that out) will want me to sell them considering what they represent. It's funny, when the s2bx first asked for a divorce I couldn't bear to even look at them and read the inscription "Forever Yours, John 6/8/91" but now I can even put them on and not shed a tear. I guess it's b/c every day I see him as just a sad person and a far cry from the man I married. I know some people wear their rings on their right hand. I guess that's a thought......
Christy
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