Re:Feelings of Losing it All Bob-Bob: Hey man,
The peeling yourself up is alot less painful than you might think... How you got there is the painful part.
I know real well the pain you are going through, It hurts like nothing ever before in my entire life...
But, the "kind, charismatic, successful, fit, white-collar person" you were before all of this is still there!
He is just in a very deep dark place right now... You were your own success story before all of this happened, and you will be again. Sometimes success is a revenge of it's own!
My best friend is going through exactly what you are, his wife without saying a word left, went out of state he found out later and the first contact was via lawyer... Cowardly...
You and you alone got yourself where you were before you lost your job... You Can do it again.
Bob
Re:Feelings of Losing it All JimB: 1 point to d2b for "natural"!
All I can say, bud, is it does get better. Time is a great healer. How you get through the worst of it is up to you, but you will get through it.
One thing that has helped me is thinking about people who are worse off than I am. People who don't have family to fall back on when they lose their jobs. People who, for whatever reason, lock themselves into unhappy marriages. And of course people who have to struggle just to put food on the table. For me, it really helped to reflect that no matter how bad things got for me, there's always someone in worse shape.
Hang in there. It sucks, and it will most likely suck for a while, but it gets better.
Re:Feelings of Losing it All robert98: Thank you VERY much to each of you for posting. I am feeling maybe 1%-2% better each week. :-\ It is so nice to read each of these postings. I am trying hard to scrape along, I did join a gym, i am finally able to go running a few days a week. I had a phone interview yesterday and a follow up set up. I think one of the hardest parts is that as they often say, depression can be a stage in the grieving process. Like many others I have classical symptoms and am working with professionals but these are dark days my friends. Thank you so much for the great insights and tremendous words... This weekend I have to go to a wedding alone.... UG! That is going to be a roller coaster. :o
Re:Feelings of Losing it All constantine: things WILL get better bro. Its just a matter of 'how much'...not if. be more optimistic adn that will open more doors in you since you are in a situation right now when youre looking for a job, new relationship and opportunities and you need to gain peoples trust.
you're lucky...1-2% is good. i had a kinda 'yo-yo' manic type recovery where i would feel great one minute and horrible the next. time heals all wounds...give it time.
move on, be strong. just like going to the gym, your emotions will level off and develop over time, and you'll regain your health.
Re:Feelings of Losing it All robert98: Thanks again. I made it through the wedding ok but fell apart once I made the long journey back home. It is so strange to feel so apart, with such an absence of goals, dreams, hopes, love. I have a history of lots of self-discipline, professional success, positive attitude, fitness etc.
Now I can't get a grip on any of those elements in my life and have regressed to mush. I did find this one poem which right now is definitely something to hang on to:
If but one message I may leave behind,
One single word of courage for my kind,
It would be this---Oh, brother, sister, friend,
Whatever life may bring, What God may send,
No matter whether clouds lift soon or late,
Take heart and wait.
Despair may tangle darkly at your feet,
Your faith dimmed, and hope, once cool and
sweet,
Be lost; but suddenly above a hill,
A heavenly lamp, set on a heavenly sill,
Will shine for you and point the way to go,
How well I know.
For I have waited through the dark, and I
Have seen a star rise in the blackest sky
Repeatedly---it has not failed me yet.
And I have learned God never will forget
To light his lamp. If we but wait for it,
It will be lit.
By Grace Noll Crowell
:-\ :-\
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