Confused and Angry!! kaya26: Is there anybody else out there that has had their spouse leave them without a clear explanation of why they feel the need to end the marriage? I have so many questions with not enough answers! Except " you may never undertand!" Are you kidding me! ???
Re: Confused and Angry!! fcard05: kaya,
i really have no idea why my wife of 10 years left me. i suspect there may be another man but i have no proof and she denies it, but i just have a gut feeling. my answers have been limited to: i don't love you anymore; i've checked out of the relationship; i don't think i love you like a husband; i think it's time to cut our losses; you should have seen this coming; this shouldn't have been a surprise, etc. not exactly a revealing log of information there. i don't know if i will ever really know, and i'm not sure i want to know. the fact is she quit on our family for another man or her career, or a combination of factors that i would never understand anyway. so my bottomline is it hurts really bad, but if she is that kind of person i am better off without her. if my son wasn't in the middle of this mess i would already be on my way to moving on. most of the pain i feel stems from the pain and problems i know my son will experience from this. how anyone could think of themselves over their child is beyond me and says a lot about the person i married.
Re: Confused and Angry!! kaya26: I could live with I don't love you anymore. It would not hurt any less but it would make it easier to move on. I just get I am not my true self with you??? I know there is another man involved but to what extent I don't know. She professes that HE is not the issue or problem of our failed marriage. But I find that hard to believe since she is pursuing her feelings for him. Maybe I just answered my own question. I guess I just wish she would have some balls and tell me herself!!
Re: Confused and Angry!! hurtinbad: It seems to always be this way...
She is reasonably happy in your marriage, runs across someone she likes/ is interested in, then suddenly your marriage is not good at all! That is what happened to me.
Why is it that they are willing to invest a lot of time/emotion/effort into a new relationship, but not on the current one. If she would have given me that much, this never would have happened.
Re: Confused and Angry!! kaya26: I hear you there hurtingbad. I have been asking myself the same question. Why did she choose to invest so much time/emoition/ and her heart into someone else? We have only been married 2 years! IT just doesn't make any sense to me at all.
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