Where the f*ck is her head? Slash: Alright, my story probably reads similar to a lot of the stories around here. My wife and I have been together for 14 years (just about half our lives), been married for 10 years and have 2 sons [5 and 2"> . I've been suspecting an affair for a month or two and yesterday she finally admitted she was having an affair. She was seeing another man whom she has been partying with over the past month or two. Get this though, she can't choose between him and me right now. She says that all she wants right now is to spend more time with him. Basically, my only shot to be with her is to sit back and let her have another man until she figures it out. Maybe if it was another woman her and I could work something out (sorry, got to laugh once in a while). I don't know how she can expect me to be OK with this! I'm a loyal husband, the sole bread-winner and father of 2 young children there is no way I can (or should have to) compete with some single scumbag with no responsibilities. I should have been smaller and let my buddy knock him out the other day. So I ask you...where the f*ck is her head?
Re: Where the f*ck is her head? ChristyM: Up her ass ... oh wait ... was that a rhetorical question? ;D
Seriously, she wants to have a relationship with you on her terms and it's up to you to decide if that's what you want. There's nothing wrong with having some self-respect and saying you love her but are not sharing her with anyone -- you are MARRIED!!!!! Good lord, you aren't a used car lot where she can drive the goods for awhile, kick the tires and then decide which is the better deal. Stand firm, draw some boundaries and then step back and let whatever will happen .. happen. If she realizes she truly wants you and comes back then it's up to you to figure out what you want at that point.
Good luck.
Christy
Re: Where the f*ck is her head? starzluv: it's been said before but i have to say it, she wants her cake and eat it too.
Re: Where the f*ck is her head? Slash: My mind is pretty much made up. I'm willing to let her have a little time (a week tops) to figure it out. If she leaves at any point or doesn't come home some night, it's over. If we separate, it's over. Realistically, it's already over because I gave her a chance to work it out with me and she couldn't commit to it.
Re: Where the f*ck is her head? Slash: As for the cake...I hope she chokes on it. I'm a peaceful gent but this is over the line. She's take time away from our kids to be with this loser and openly sacrificing everything that we have. I'm at a lost!
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