Re: Where the f*ck is her head? starzluv: i don't know if you live in a no fault state or not, but i would hire the PI too. even if it is a no fault state, he may get some things that are helpful to you if you want to go for full custody of the kids.
Re: Where the f*ck is her head? hybrid: yeah where the f*ck is her head? she expects you to just sit there while she gives herself to another man? and tell you this is her way of choosing who she will be with? this is not a woman, this is a monster, who doesn't know what she wants but feels like she can surf over you and you wouldn't say nothing, i wouldn't take it. to be honest, in NY here most of the guys i know including me, if this happened to, we would pay a visit to this guy and make a final push for her to say what she wants, otherwise quit playing games. i HATE when they do it, my ex is just like that, a big big c*nt, but what can you do.. this is the world we live in, sadly.
i hope you do the right thing,
doesn't sound like you will put up with it,
that's how it should be done.
g'luck on your journy
Re: Where the f*ck is her head? Slash: Damn, it is a struggle. I haven't lost my cool with her yet but I'm definitely not going to take much of her sh*t. She confessed to the affair very recently and I'm willing to try to allow her a little time to figure it if it saves our marriage. I don't want to force her to stay or force her to leave. She needs to come to her f*cking senses on her own. She claims that she just doesn't know what is going to make her happy but I believe she really just needs to find the door out of the fairy world she is living in. I'm not trying to be cocky but I have given her a damn good life and she's lost sight of it. I bust my ass to make sure she can be a stay at home mom which is what she always said she wanted. If you ask any of her girlfriends they will all concur that she has it real good. I'm sure at times I haven't been the perfect man but she hasn't always been perfect either. The last few days have been a lot better between us and I feel that we are making progress. The open wound is that I know she's at least still talking to him and he's feeding her sh*t. As a side note, I play hockey and although I'm typically one of the nice guys I would love to get that scumbag on the ice and send him through the f*cking boards.
Re: Where the f*ck is her head? Older Guy: .......with your stick up around and across his chest when his head is down !
Hand in there buddy....best wishes.
bob
Re: Where the f*ck is her head? Tarheel: Slash,
Other than about 11 years and one child, your story sounds remarkably, REMARKABLY similar to mine. My ex and I were together for three years, had a daughter, and suddenly, she decided to do the partying thing again. And it wasn't with me. Caught her, gave her some time to think it over. She chose him, I dropped divorce papers on her out of NOWHERE and got custody of our little girl. And I know that she regrets it now, but what might've happened if I'd let it go on any longer? She could've served me, possibly gotten the house, custody of our daughter. I'd be in BIG trouble right now, despite having done NOTHING wrong.
Be the bigger person. Don't let your emotions make you do anything stupid. Have you told anybody else close to you what's going on? You need someone to vent to on a personal level. I know my mom and my brother kept me from doing quite a few stupid things.
Get your ducks in a row. If you gotta do the PI, do it. Talk to an attorney about your options. Be sneaky. Be coniving. And don't let her know you're up to anything. Just do your best to play it cool. It's VERY hard sometimes, but you can do it.
If you wanna PM me about this, I'm all ears, man.
Tarheel
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