confused... fernfrond: It's been 10 months since my ex broke up with me. No dates so far. First I tought that it would be fairly possible to date or just hook with somebody. The more time goes by, the less I believe it's possible.
I had a few odd encounters with some guys. They mostly wanted to be good buddies, couldn't figure out if they were romantically interested. I would hang out with them on regular basis (actually sometimes more often than I would normally do with friends). They would call me to hang out regularly. But when I started giving out very subtle vibes of possibly being interested in them they would cut it off. I mean I was super subtle and after a few weeks of hanging out. One of them told me he was seeing someone already. Then what was I doing in his house at 2am Sunday morning after he made me dinner and drinks and smoked a joint on the rooftop while admiring the moonlight. We had excellent conversations. Was I confused to think he liked me?
When I go out I don't get looks or people trying to get to know me. I used to think that I was not getting hit on because I was in a relationship (8 yrs.) When I go out with girlfriends they get looked at and swarmed. Some of these girls have boyfriens even. It like you think somebody is waving at you, but they are actually waving at the person behind you and you fail to look behind you because you are confident it's for you. Then you feel bad when you realize what's going on.
Then a friend of mine tried to hook me up with a friend of hers. She showed me a picture and I felt bad. This guy looked like the the morbidly obese version of the comic bookstore guy on the Simpsons. I am an attractive women, I work out, healthy, good skin, have all my limbs and hair. I manage to keep my clothing stain free and hip. hip.WHAT"S GOING ON? The more time goes by the sadder I get.
I have been trying out online dating. Not much luck there either. It's hard to maintain a positive glow. I have been very social and interactive with people in different situations. I live in a fairly trendy neighborhood in Chicago, I see men who I find attractive. I have met two guys in the past few months that I hit it off with, but they have girlfriends. I have no problems talking to men, but what bothers me is if I don't initiate contact. Or some people who I met so far just want buddies to talk to. Any ideas?
Re: confused... sourpuss: guys??? any thoughts???
Re: confused... hardened_heart1970: hi. you aint telling me nothing i dont know......i am not a very attractive guy (see pic on photo deal) but i am the life of the party and am very funny when not sad........it makes you feel like your defective. i have a crap load of female friends, and most say, i think of you like a brother. if you decifer that, it means, you have no chance. same boat here, wondering y?
Re: confused... KA: Hi, I'm with you on the dating scene as well. I was with my ex for 13 years. We were married 11 years. We have now been separated a year, but I have only been on a few dates. (Most of them have been first dates because we didn't "click".) I wonder if it's possible to meet someone. I've tried the online sites as well, but it seems as though most of the guys on those sites are players.
Re: confused... hardened_heart1970: ya online site suck. they mis inform you, and u can never tell who your talking too. well, ill die alone i guess...........
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