Re: confused... hudson: hola, buenos noches fernfrond,
I think you need to give it more time. Otherwise, I really don't know what else to tell you. You said something about not maintaining a positive glow or vibe. That may have a lot to do with it. If you don't look like you want people to talk to you, then, people will pick up on that.
If I was at a bar, which I wouldn't be cause that ain't my scene anymore, but if I was at a bar, then, first, I wouldn't go to try to hook up with a girl. I would go to enjoy myself, have a drink, socialize with my compradres, and just chill. That way, no matter what happens, it'll be a good evening, hookup or not. And also, you'll put out the positive glow because you're actually having fun.
Now if I got to the bar, started hangin' out my my brosephs and spotted a nice looking, non-sleazy looking, non-loudmouth young woman just sipping on a drink, maybe playing some pool or sitting on a barstool chatting, I might just mosey on over and say hi, strike up a conversation.
For me, it's all about whether I like what I see. It's all about how the lady carries herself in that sort of atmosphere. A lot of singles that hang out in bars play that whole game where they act like they don't want anyone of the opposite sex talking to them, they act like they really aren't interested. When in fact they are lonely and would really like to meet a nice dude or dudette. Know what I mean? That game where were people pretend to be the happiest son of a bitch on the planet, the most confident person, the most together, the most non-needy, uninterested person in the world.
ok, i'll go now, bye.
Re: confused... half full: I feel your pain about being set up by a friend.I am not actively looking for a date but my friends think I should be and they want to set me up with the lowest forms of female.It is very depressing.
Re: confused... paul76: fernfrond---
I can definitely feel your pain!
I am not the greatest looking guy on earth, but not the worst either. I live in a little town w/ the usual amount of bs that comes with it. Everyone knows everyone else and their entire history, so meeting new people is basically impossible. All of my friends are married or engaged, and their wives/fiancees try to set me up with their friends, but almost immediately I get put into the friend catagory. They say they like to be around me because I like to shop, am not a pig, and actually listen to their complaints. If it is good enough for them, then why cant I seem to find a date. I know the fact that I am painfully shy isnt helping, but come on. Its 2005 right....womens lib and all.
I guess this leads to the inevitable question, do I need to be an uninterested pig to get a girl?
Re: confused... hardened_heart1970: gotta love the "only friends" catagorie.......
Re: confused... Lumpy: Honestly, I don't have a problem with the "just friends" tag. Every relationship I've ever had with a woman started out as a friendship. Look at it from a different angle. You've got your foot in the door. Now whatcha gon' do?
