Re: I miss him and hate him at the same time... riversandlakes: When a piece of nostalgia triggered by some object I see or a word I hear or a name of a place we've visited hits me, there's a warm feeling within. I try not to visibly wince whenver that happens.
I still love her, for all that has become of her. But there is no turning back to those happy innocent times. The trust, which pieces she let fall onto the ground to shatter, can never be found again.
Maybe only with someone new - who deserves the benefit of the doubt, but not her ever again.
I'm sad with that realization...
Re: I miss him and hate him at the same time... little_sparrow: I remember asking my friend how can I love someone I don't even like? Sometimes it takes the heart a little while to catch up to the brain.
Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is.
Re: I miss him and hate him at the same time... genesplicer: I hear ya on this one Smiley, I've been wondering the same thing myself.
It's a little outside my normal personality to hate anyone, I'm finding myself a little off balance in general dealing with it.
Where's that darn emotional off switch?
Re: I miss him and hate him at the same time... qickglitter: Wow... i love this site and all of you... it is amazing to read words written by others, that you believe are actually the same words rolling around inside of your own head. its amazing and so comforting to know i am not alone, and i do feel the same way. All of the advise is great and the empathy is even better. I sure hope we all get through this. :) Sometimes i think, sure no problem, as soon as a climb this 100 foot wall infront of me, standing in my way of happiness.
Re: I miss him and hate him at the same time... Smiley17: Well, I'm glad you've found us, but sorry at the same time.
These emotions are rough. Some are built up from long term relationships, some from the short term relationships.
Mine is from a very short term, but highly emotional friendship / not so much a relationship / very close time consuming thing. Basically, I was his rebound, he screwed me over, had no explanation or sign that something was wrong, I feel like a total a$$ kind of thing.
Yup, it sucks!
