Re: I am the cheater.... tbird: the fact that your husband was abusive, i can understand how you could find solace in someone else. your self esteem was very low cause of him. Noone should be able to get away with abuse. I dont blame you for doing what you did, but i think you need to distance yourself from your ex. you 2 did not fit well together. you need to move on and concentrate on your kids, be glad you have them, and find someone that will treat you properly.
good luck.
Re: I am the cheater.... gulfcoast: Shalanne
things will get better.....just keep your head up.....
think positive...
Re: I am the cheater.... Shalanne: Yes, he was abusive and my self esteam is low. But I still love him and I am still having a hard time not being with him. My head says to get away (which I am) and my heart achs for him. We still see eachother every now and then because of the kids. But he doesn't spend very much time with them. He has been drinking a lot again as well. Which worrys me.
I am so glad for the support here. Thanks again!
Re: I am the cheater.... whatnext: Shalanne,
Put your children first. Put your relationship with your husband aside for a time and put your children first. Give yourself a lot of time. Years if need be.
Since you've been together since you were 17 I'm guessing that you can't really imagine a life without him, but believe me, it's possible.
Your children have to come first. They can't grow up in an abusive environment and try to trust me when I tell you they will be much better off living with divorced parents than with violent parents.
Good luck.
