A quick question starzluv: my kids have been watching lilo and stich ALOT the last couple of days, and my son made the comment "family means nobody gets left behind, i wish daddy would remember that". now the question, should i tell his dad this? should i tell my son to sak it? or should i just cry and leave it alone? my son is 6.
Re: A quick question brokenupgirl: Dear starzluv,
I think having your son ask is definitely bad -- it's using him to hurt your ex, when your child should be shielded as much as possible from what's going on. Don't tell your son to ask this to his dad!
I don't know about telling him yourself. What do you think his reaction would be? Would he believe you? Would he care? Would he become angry? Do you think there's an off chance that it would make your ex spend more time with his kids?
Good luck with your situation. I hope you and your kids are doing OK.
Re: A quick question starzluv: i think what worries me is if he doesn't care. i really don't know how he would react. i want him to know, but i don't want him to think i am using what the kids say to make him feel bad for leaving. i don't want to use the kids to get to him, but when they say things like that i don't know what to say to them. i think they are getting tired of hearing me tell them that daddy loves them. my 5 year old daughter doesn't seem to care one way or another. but my son is always asking me why doesn't daddy live here anymore, and things like that. the other day he asked my husband and all he told my son is that we were moving soon too. he doesn't know what to say to the kids either. i should mention we are moving soon too, but i think my son now thinks we are moving in with him because of the way he said it. we were separated before while he moved here to get things set up for me and the kids to move down and i think my son thinks the same thing is happening. i don't know how to explain any of this to them. i have 3 the 6 year old a 5 yearold, and one that's almost 2. the youngest i'm not worried about yet,(with the separation) but the 2 older ones i am
Re: A quick question teacherwriterguy: I haven't read your story - but my general impression is just let your son's comment lie.
If your husband has made up his mind, this isn't going to change it. And it puts your son in the middle of the conflict, which you don't want to do.
twg
Re: A quick question WhiskeyGirl: Tell your ex if you want....do not tell your son to do it. Tell your son that his dad will NEVER leave him behind and just because he doesnt live there anymore does not mean his dad loves him any less or that he wanted to leave him behind, its just that sometimes mommies and daddies can't live together anymore and you are just the lucky one who gets to have him most of the time....."daddy's jealous because he misses you (your son) so much!" I dont care if its true or not....he's 6...let him have his little world as close to perfect as you can make it.
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