Re: A quick question wowee: That is really nice & I am glad you guys are being so civil. It really does help for the children's sake. My kids haven't seen their father in 6 months & although it is not his fault he is gone - except he volunteered to go on a temporary military assignment, he was hoping I would have moved out of state by the time he got back. When he said this I was floored, how could he not want to see his children? The baby only turned 1 this month & he didn't even care to see how much she had grown or anything. He actually almost acts as if I was the one who cheated & she isn't even his. He stopped calling our son 4 weeks ago & hasn't said one word about why - and I am not about to ask him & beg him to be a father. My son seems to do better when e doesn't call anyway. I am glad your husband loves your kids & takes the time to show it. I hope everything works out for the best for all of you.
Re: A quick question starzluv: thanks. i wish i knew what to say but i don't, i can't even imagine ANY parent not wanting to be a part of their kids life. if someone ever told me i couldn't see my kids, they would have to lock me up to keep me from them.
Re: A quick question sparks: Have you sat the kids down to talk to them about what is going on? If not do it with Dad around. Try to explain to them the best that you can. It wont answer all of the questions but it will give them a some.
I agree that you shouldnt have your son tell his dad what he said to you. I wanted my kids to tell them everything they said to me but I wanted them to say it so they could guilt him into realizing how it was affecting them and hopefully change his mind. Not a good idea.
You wont ever have the all the answers to your kids questions. He wont either. Just take them as they come and keep the underlying message that both of you love all of them and its not their fault.
Re: A quick question starzluv: thanks sparks
i'm just going to let it go, i'm not going to tell him to repeat it to N if e desides to come home, i want it to be his desition, and not because me or the kids guilted him into it. he still isn't sure what he wants, but i am going to move on with the plans i have told you about, if he desides to come home great but if he waits too long to deside it may just be too late. once i'm set the way i've told you i want to be i might have more confidence in myself, and deside for myself that it is truely over. right now i would love for him to come home, but i don't know how i will feel if this drags on for too long.
