Re: Should I have to ask?? microtech1: Ok so here is the problem she is friends with the girl getting married. Much more so than I am. She has told this girl about what she feels and basically if I say I am coming with a date I will be asked to not go. Should I really worry about going if that is the determining factor if I am wanted or not?
Re: Should I have to ask?? tyrogers: Were YOU asked to go? And guess what else....if she is friends with the girl that is getting married and has any couth at all, SHE WILL NOT BRING SOME STUPID DRAMA TO HER FRIEND'S WEDDING DAY! Duh. GO. Screw her. If they ask you not to come, then don't go but until then, grab your date and go have a blast!!!!
BBH
Re: Should I have to ask?? Lome: Hi,
[quote"> friends I talked to her about it and was honest. I told her that she was not my type and listed specific reasons I felt that way.[/quote">
You hurt her feelings....that is not saying that you were mean or even trying to be hurtful...but, she felt that she was being attacted for things that she could not change....
example:(After about 3 weeks) We really had a great date last night...but, I can't see you anymore because you are short, have these really weird hairs sticking out of your ears, and I don't really like virgos.
It does not matter that any of what was stated is truth...it still hurts to be rejected . You used logic while she was using emotion.
[quote"> I asked her what upset her so much about me bringing a date and she said it made her upset because it confirmed that she was a rebound relationship for me. It never was intended that way and[/quote">
This may be true, but now everyone at the office knows that she did not meet up to your standards and was quickly replaced....
[quote"> I said sorry I didn't think about how me bringing a date would affect you. She threatened her friend that if I bring a date she won't go to the reception. [/quote">
Again, you bringing a date shows that you have moved on....
But more importantly, as you said...just looking for a good time....why would you bring a date to someone's wedding if this will only lead to drama?
(warning: Southern woman logic!!!! The wedding is about 2 people who are having to put up with a mess of details and trying to please the entire world because someone's future in laws would be insulted if they have to sit on the southern side of the banquet table and you know that makes her look........)
Weigh your decision of one date verses your friends having one more pain in the arse thing to deal with during the wedding....
This is not surrendering....I mean, how long will a wedding last? This is just not putting salt in a wound and then wondering why someone says, "Ouch!" and then continues to complain...
Go to the wedding alone....Hook up up with your date afterwards....If your date is not emotionally connected to the new couple...she will be bored stiff.
and taking someone to a WEDDING is sending mixed signals....it is weird I know and I presume innocent...but, I know some chicks that would see this as close to a proposal!
IF none of this made any sense...just think of it this way...what if you had been the one dropped and she was now hanging in the office with some stud and everyone knew that you just did not "do it" for her....Could you always be nice and cheerful when dealing with her?
Good Luck
Re: Should I have to ask?? microtech1: Well everyone in the office was invited so yeah I guess I was asked. I even made sure with the bride to be if it was ok to bring a date! She had no problem with it until her friend got pissed off. The other thing that ticks me off is that this girl told me I never think about anyone but myself!
HA!!! if that was the case wouldn't I have kept seeing her just to get what I wanted until I found someone else??
Re: Should I have to ask?? sooverhim: if you were invited, go...it's normal to bring dates to wedding/receptions as for the other girl bbh is right, she doesn't need to be bringing any additional drama to the bride. i can understand if she is a little jealous you are bringing another girl if she was really into you and is now disappointed but she is going to have to get over that. would she bring in another man if she had one? or would she just not invite her bf to the event? maybe she should look at it that way.
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