Re: even the strong break.. a brooklyn love story. abc123: sorry man, that was a little too blunt.
but im sorry, i learned that the hard way and did very, very stupid things thinking that she wasnt in her right mind state. trust me, her mind is set and very firm. dont do like me and spend months thinking she will come back to you becuase chances are she has someone else. very rarely does a woman leave unless she has something else to fall back on. she uses you as a crutch until shes able to leave.
the sad thing is you can do anything about it.
my advice is forget her forever, you will only mess yourself up later on down the line. its been one year for me and she left me in such confusion that i tried to do everything...from calling her parents, emailing her, getting mad, sad, keeping hope...youre going to destroy your mind man.
if she comes back, she comes back. if she doesnt, she doesnt. you need to hear it bluntly becuase i dont want you to get any wrong ideas. the best thing to do is move on with your life. if you want to mess yourself up over something thats not worth it, then you can try, ubt i suggest you not.
plus man, you got help here from everyone...we can support you. i guess im in a bad mood right now becuase im still stuck in this hole i dug for myself trying ot get her back.
Re: even the strong break.. a brooklyn love story. Lumpy: Have you talked to her about the whys and wherfores? Just "I'm not in love with you" and that's it? How big a problem were the drugs for her? I get the sense that you're down-playing that to some degree. If that was an issue that she had with you for awhile, and you ignored it, I can see how her behavior towards you might change. I'm not sure what to tell you other than I feel you need to back off for a time. No hanging out in her hood trying to catch a glimpse of her, no tagging her house. I think your just strengthening her resolve when you do these things. "See, he's strange. He's stalking me." They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Give her the space she wants. If you guys were as close as you think she'll get a hold of you. Good luck..
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They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Give her the space she wants. If you guys were as close as you think she'll get a hold of you. Good luck..
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you know i hope so, and that's what i'm kind of doing but it feels like i'm going against what i wanna do, i'm such a dick for falling for this. i didn't think i'd be the herb chasing the girl back with flowers and get shut down to your face. i dunno why but it makes me hate myself, to know this had to happen to me, when i know others are in the same boat or one way deeper in the water. whenever i'm alone these feelings take over me, when i'm with friends or occupied with work or painting then it's like a pea under a pillow but when i'm alone it's the whole damn bed, i dunno what to do. i really don't like this feeling, i know what to do to fix it and that's to let time mend everything and get by, however that's not what my heart wants to do. every damn day i feel drawn to think about where is she, what is she doing, etc. it pisses me off man. i think i'm an idiot or a fool. i hate this new transition into life without this person, my problems are too complex and it's funny all my other problems, well what i considered a problem is nothing to me anymore, i only worry about this, this inner pain that i won't try to prevent because it's not what i want.. argh lol ???
Re: even the strong break.. a brooklyn love story. Lumpy: We are all fools' for love hybrid. Love makes idiots of us all. I know what you mean about fighting your instincts. Try really hard to take the emotions out of it a see it rationally. She knows how you feel. You can't force her into making a decision she doesn't want to make.
