This may be a rehash...... dreamerpoet: I am about 90% sure I am moving back to CT next Junish. So the question of the day is:
Should I be concerned about seperating the kids from their dad so far away? He is a complete @ss most of the time, does drugs/alcohol, doesn't really go out of his way to see them, cussed at me every chance he gets. He has punched me before etc (if you have read any of my posts you are kinda familiar with the background info).
I plan to not tell him till the last possible moment, even later if I am under no legal obligation. Although I don't have that set in stone in my mind/plans yet.
I just don't know how to hash out all the little details and as far as I am concerned I have spent the last 7 years living for his happiness and his family's happiness. My family has seen the kids 1ce and my mom a total of 5 times. What about them? And me?
Sorry to dump all this here but I am so undecided.
Re: This may be a rehash...... getting_rough: Mel,
I am not good at giving advice but I am trying because I know this is a 2 way street at Ojar. Your story caught my eye. All I can really say is Do something for you and your kids. You say that you have been living for his happiness all these years and he is not a great dad. Are your kids betteroff without him full time. Moving far away does not take him out of their lives completely it just makes him work a little to see them. I grew up in CT while my dad (is still growing up) in Maine. It was confusing in the begining but when I look back I think that was the best for us kids. My dad also did drugs/drink still does. Good luck. and maybe I will see ya in CT some day. I will keep you in my thoughts and pray that the decision comes easily.
Re: This may be a rehash...... tbird: Iwouldnt worry about him. if he doesnt make the effort to see them, just go. you need to be surrounded by family.
