Re: Need a stupid question answered--Any ideas? Lumpy: I think the message that he's trying to send you is deeper than the truck. It's "see, I'm not the same person. I'm getting my $hit together and handling business." He wants acceptance or a pat on the back from you. He wants you to see him as being capable and responsible. Just my take...
Re: Need a stupid question answered--Any ideas? ColoHill: Lumpy,
I agree with your statement. However, I don't see how getting it back would signify that it is okay to continue to work on staying married. I don't see what part the truck has in whether we stay married or not. I praised him last night for his efforts and told him I really hoped they paid off. I told him I wished him luck getting through the mess this morning. I am tryin those things. I just don't see why it's a factor in our marriage working. I know that it is one less stress for him. I do. But, what does that mean...If he couldn't get it, our marriage wasn't worth saving?
Re: Need a stupid question answered--Any ideas? sourpuss: i'd be more than a little concerned with that as an excuse to work on the marriage.
i think it's shows a certain "disconnection" with reality that will make it very hard to correct what ever the "real" issue is.
Re: Need a stupid question answered--Any ideas? Lumpy: Have you expressed that feeling to him? "Hey, that's great about the truck and all, but I'd like to talk about your/our plan for making this marriage work. Get down to brass tacks. You say you want this to work. What are you willing to do to show me that you're sincere?
Re: Need a stupid question answered--Any ideas? kellsbee: I wish I had some rationalization for ya but I really dont. There is no rationalizing that kind of sh!t.
