Re: do they stay with the OW/OM?? riversandlakes: perfect man, or perfect woman. there is no justification to hurt another human being so deeply, unless there're cases of physical/mental/emotional abuse of any kind...
it'd better be real, because if it was made believe by the cheater, then paper cannot cover fire...
i refuse to ever accept that such naive and immature little ones can ever deserve happiness, until they learn that hurting another will just smack them back in the face in the end.
my friend told me that 80% of cheaters (those who hurt another like described above) do not end up well, either being cheated on themselves (bravo!) or left to regret.
no hardcore stats, just something he read somewhere...
Re: do they stay with the OW/OM?? Cowboy12: Has anyone got a link to see the stats on cheaters and the aftermath etc... would just love to see those.
Anyway, I agree with most of whats been said, I think I am jealous she has someone new in her life, and I haven't .... guess when I finally give up on her, I will meet someone else who hopefully will treat me better than my ex did, shouldn't be too hard really.
Re: do they stay with the OW/OM?? minneapolis: A friend told me that Dr. Phil said that only 10% of relationships born of infidelity survive. Now, who really knows if he actually said that and even if he did, the man strikes me as being a little full of sh*t himself. So who knows.
But I recently read a book called "Uncoupling" (great book) in which the author explains that often the OW/OM is really just a transitional person used to help the leaver get out of his/her relationship. They don't recognize the relationship as transitional, but they are often simply a stepping stone, or crutch to the leaver to get through their own difficult time.
In my situation, the OW was also cheating on her husband who was recently killed in a car crash. I feel quite sorry for her, imagining the guilt she must (and maybe should?) feel. But deep down, I also hope that this unfortunate event causes her to leave my STBXH. Not so that he'll come back to me (b/c I seriously wouldn't take him back...seriously...no really I'm serious) but just so he knows what it's like.
