fcard05 update fcard05: hello all just felt like writing some... it always seems to help put things in perspective for me. for those of you not familiar with my tale here is the quick version: married 10 yrs; have 4 yr old son; stay at home dad for 3 yrs so wife could climb corporate ladder; wife traveled a lot; wife came home from biz trip in early july with the old "i don't love you anymore"; wife repeatedly refused to seek marital counseling; fcard falls into pit of despair for 7-10 days; fcard gathers what remains of dignity and files for divorce...
well, i guess i can say that i am turning the corner. yes, there is still some pain but i have to admit that i have felt better about myself over the last 10-14 days than i have in a long time. i have started getting out more and doing things that "I" like to do. my son seems to be taking everything in stride so no real problems on that front either thank god. i have established new friendships, re-connected with old friends and have generally tried to make each day as good as possible. over the last 7-10 days i have done a lot of soul searching concerning the relationship i had with my wife. it was toxic to say the least... we were always very different people but in the beginning we accepted those differences as complimentary to one another. but in the end the differences became greater and they stopped being complimentary and became destructive. so much resentment built up over the years that in the end we had no respect for each other, no trust in each other, and finally no love. and yes, despite my desperate efforts to save the relationship i have come to the conclusion that i am no longer in love with her either. i loved the girl that i married, i loved the life that we HAD before her career took priority, and i loved the thought of having the all-american family and growing old together like a scene from some rockwell painting. but reality has a funny way of snapping us out of our fairy tale visions of what should be. i guess i now realize that everything has changed but it's not necessarily a bad thing. in fact, i think this may be the best thing that ever happened to me in the long run.
thanks for listening everyone
Re: fcard05 update brokenupgirl:
Hi fcard05,
I'm glad you're turning the corner! You're an inspiration to all of us!
Re: fcard05 update jem: fcard- I'm so glad you posted, been wondering how things were going for you- glad to see you are doing better and you sound so much stronger- how did you get there so fast?????? Hope all continues to be well for you and your child!!
Jem
Re: fcard05 update jadedangel: [color=navy"> Can't say much more than ..... I'm jealous ... ;)[/color">
Re: fcard05 update fcard05: thanks for all the words of support... you guys and gals have made all the difference for me.
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