need advice... inpain: Hello! I'm needing some words of wisdom from my fellow ojars. It's been 11 weeks since my partner of 2 1/2 years unexpectedly walked out the door and never returned. Left me with money problems and a severely broken heart. Needless to say it has been a difficult, very painful summer for me. But through friends, faith, therapy, prozac and of course this website, I'm slowly headed back to being happy again. I never wanted to be where I was when I first posted here. And for everyone who is sufferings through unbearable pain.....please believe me when I tell you it does get better.
Here is my question. My ex and I have talked to each other briefly through this ordeal...usually just to communicate money issues. We have tried to maintain some kind of loose friendship. She told me she left me because she had weight loss surgery and lost "a lot" of weight and wanted to go
see is if "the grass was greener". So we are not the closest friends. I talked to her today and she is going to be a club tonight that I am going to be at. I go to this club every Wednesday night. Until tonight she has never gone and she knows this is a place that I frequent. She asked me today on the phone if it was ok that she shows up and she didn't want to invade my space. And of course, me trying to be tough....I said, "Sure - your not invading my space." Meanwhile I'm scared. I'm sure if she's not there with a new love, she'll be flirting with everybody. Although, I'm doing well....I'm still in love and don't want this to cause me pain and set me back. But I refuse to stay home and let your control where I go.
Does anyone have any advice on how I should act?
I don't want her to know that I care.
Thanks in advance,
Scared in Cleveland
Re: need advice... sourpuss: be strong.
ignore her as best you can.
it will get easier each time you see her.
Re: need advice... Lumpy: Bring hot female friends if ya got 'em! Seriously though, maybe you should consider not going. If you still love her and she's showing out for you It could get ugly. Then again maybe she's making a play for you. Why would she want to go to a club that she knows you frequent? Sounds like a bit of a headgame...
Re: need advice... one day at a time: Inpain - I just read your post . Did you end up going? I assume this happened last night?
Re: need advice... alonewith2: yes, please fill us in....don't leave us hanging....just in case we're in this situation.....hope things were fine for you!
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