Re: On line dating...How does that work? sigkapgirl: Half full ~
I never would've thought that I'd meet someone online, and when I found Ojar, my intent was not to "date" or anything.
Tarheel and I started out innocently enough - sending instant messages, and we basically just found that we have a lot in common. It all kind of progressed from there. Even a month ago, if you had told me that he would be driving here to see me TODAY, I woldn't have believed you!
We know that its hard, both of us going through a divorce, but we are happy to have found someone who understands what it feels like. Quite honestly, we think its a blessing that we're so far away right now. That way, we can't move too fast. His divorce just became final last week, and mine won't be final until March or April of next year. The last thing that we both need is to rush into something, and being far away prevents that.
Just take it one day at a time. Continue to be happy that she is part of your daily routine. I'm glad you found someone that you can talk to and connect with. I know it helps right now to be able to talk to someone who really does understand what you're going through :)
Re: On line dating...How does that work? half full: [quote author=Tarheel's Honey link=topic=16559.msg139717#msg139717 date=1123168450">
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have found someone who understands what it feels like. Quite honestly, we think its a blessing that we're so far away right now. That way, we can't move too fast.
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That is a very good point.I don't know if she is interested in anything else but chatting and I honestly don't know if I am either.What I do know is I look forward to chatting with her before I go to my night job.I find conversation with her exciting yet comforting.
Re: On line dating...How does that work? Smiley17: I'm sorry, I have to chime in here.
I have two words for you: Be Careful.
Although it's comforting and tempting to talk to someone in a similar situation that you're in, you need to remember that other people have feelings too. Yes, she might help you, and maybe you might help her, but be very careful about developing a relationship based on that.
If you're not over your ex, or what she did to you, you might not be able to date and give your heart to this new woman. Sure, you can tell her that you're not over her, but you need to be careful with the words you use and the feelings you convey. If you're not fully intent of giving her your heart, watch what you say and do. Don't pull her into something that can hurt her.
When we're hurt, sometimes we fall into people when we're not really ready to. Then we realize that when feelings and emotions really develop, then it's too late - someone gets hurt.
Just be careful, be cautious, and be aware of what you're doing and saying. Take responsibilty for your own actions.
On the flip side, if you're both ready, go for it and have fun, but be sure.
Just my 2 cents.
Re: On line dating...How does that work? jadedangel: [color=navy"> Well ... I completely agree that you should continue talking and getting to know each other ... the land of online is a different way to get to know another person, especially through a dating perspective.. there is some sort of barrier that doesn't exist... but, don't be mistaken in thinking that the barrier's that do exist are not really there. Sometimes .. the things that are worth the most ... are the hardest to accomplish.
Do .. however, take the caution with a very real and honest perspective .. if your not ready .. don't try to fool yourself into thinking you are ... same with her ... don't let her fool herself into thinking she is. Smiley girl is right ... because of the circumstances you met ... makes it hard to start on a clean slate ... don't build from uneven surface, things only crumble that way ... make sure you have the ability to make the strongest foundation you can... You seem like an optimistic guy--don't be afraid to show her the real you... ;)
If she is worth the effort ... she will be there when you are both ready ... if that is what you both want...[/color">
Re: On line dating...How does that work? half full: WOW.I apreciate all of the advice.I still don't know what I want though.I do know I like chatting with her.I will be careful though.I don't want to be hurt or to cause the hurt.I think the best advice is to take it slow and see what happens.It could be we just need someone to listen or it could be we really like just talking or it could end up in the future leading to a relationship.Oh my god I'm still confused.
Ever get so much information about something that after you've looked at it all you are more confused than you were when you knew nothing. ;)Dave
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