Re: Just gotta get it out... Suddenly Single: Oh S-N-B I know you are right but it is SO frustrating...especially as an outsider. They are fighting about daycare now...she is demanding that he be flexible with her but MY GOD I don't know how much crap he can take from her. She has been bullying him around and demeaning him for their entire marriage and now that he is standing up for himself..she is saying that he is bossing her around and all that...but all the times she refused to do things...he took care of it...he takes the kids for haircuts, pictures, dentist appointments - if the kids forget something god forbid at her house she refuses to bring it to him because it is his time...one time he had the flu and she refused to bring the blankie and binkie over for the youngest because "he screwed up" and she "wasn't going to fix it." she won't allow the one child to take religion class during school time so after work he is doing it...she doesn't support the 4-H club..she doesn't support religion...yet he is the one that should be flexible. GOD>....I wish she could see how irrational she is being...I probably don't make any sense now because I just got off the phone with him and I'm irritated...I guess this should be in vent o board.
Thanks for listening!
Re: Just gotta get it out... alonewith2: It is frustrating, and as long as she knows it is frustrating him, she will continue to do it......anytime she "pulls her usual" just have him say politely, "okay, sorry for bothering you." Then he should hang up, walk away, whatever the case may be. He should do it everytime (no matter how hard it may be) and eventually, she will learn that acting like a selfish prick isn't going to get her anywhere...... If the kids have too many things going on that only he is supporting, it might help to sit down with the kids, have them pick ONE thing and let them know that he is only one person and that he is trying his best, but can no longer drive himself crazy doing everything......just some helpful hints....I hope things get better!!
Re: Just gotta get it out... Suddenly Single: S-N-B--thanks. You are right. and I just vented at why I am sitting here worrying about it. I mean I know it is beause I care but...I shouldn't get this involved .. should I?
ugh. :-[
Re: Just gotta get it out... alonewith2: I think it means a lot to him that you care and understand what she's doing to him, and it shows him that you truely care about his kids!! Keep up the support!!!
Re: Just gotta get it out... Suddenly Single: Thanks! I will...somtimes it is just so hard and tiring...but I care so I will.
Thank you. SS
