Physical Attraction hudson: I know I've probably asked this before and people have talked about it on here but, I'm wondering how important ojarians think mutual physical attraction is to the well being of a relationship.
For me this has been as issue. I've always been very attracted to the women I've had relationships with. But my last three post divorce relationships I haven't really been all that attracted to the women and it has potentially caused some problems. These are super ladies, who are all very caring and loving, yet, I interpreted my lack of attraction as a signal(not the signal) that I shouldn't go long term with them.
Because for one reason or another I feel that, without a lot of physical attraction there will develop a reluctance for physical contact and that would be really bad!
It could also be that I'm putting too much emphasis on the exterior apprearance, you know, getting caught up in how good someone looks.
I would really appreciate any input on this subject.
Re: Physical Attraction freovir: maybe i am shallow, but i dig beauty. she doesn't have to be a super model, but i have no patience for three things: 1) ugly, 2) ignorant, and 3) obesity.
i know within 10 seconds of meeting someone if i cannot pursue them. there may be reasons that come to light in the future as to why we are not compatable, buy i do put major importance on appearance. no matter how nice, or wonderful a woman is if i am not attracted to her, forget it.
just another shallow guy, i guess.
--fre
Re: Physical Attraction sigkapgirl: Fre ~
I don't think that's shallow. Physical chemistry is important. I don't think that "beauty" is the be all end all, but if you're not attracted to the person physically, how could you possibly have an intimate relationship?
To have a "real" relationship with someone, you need to be attracted to the person both emotionally and physically. Otherwise, I think that it probably isn't going to work out...
Just my two cents...
Re: Physical Attraction Smiley17: I'm more of an emotional connector, but the guy has to be at least a tiny bit attractive. I mean I have to be able to look at him and smile rather than scream and run away, but I'm far from shallow. And anyone who's seen my past relationships/dates, knows that.
I think, to me, physical attraction is about 30 - 40 percent.
The rest is my own emotional connection and connection in personality.
Hell, I was with Fluffy for crying out loud!
Re: Physical Attraction gulfcoast: Great question with great responses...
I would say that the physical is important to make it in a long term....
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