Re: Physical Attraction wowee: If anyone thinks you guys are shallow.... just add me to the list too. I am a big fan of the “physical attraction HAS to be there theory”. But we should all keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What one person finds attractive, someone else may not. I do not let what OTHER people think is attractive or not change my view. I can't tell you how many times people told me some guy was hot & I should meet him & I didn't quite feel the same way. I agree with the thought that the physical intimacy can fade easier if the attraction wasn't there in the first place. And if I can read into Fre's & TH's points, not ALL of the attraction is solely based on looks. I can't tell you how many guys I have known who have the body of a greek god, but the IQ of a paper plate - No attraction there. Back a billion years ago when I was dating I always knew that there was no future with someone I didn't feel attracted to & because of that people thought I was stuck up for always saying no when people asked me out. I didn't think that was fair to me. I simply wasn't out for a free dinner or a movie & I would rather just remain friends if I felt no attraction. Even one date can screw that up sometimes. So to answer your question Blazin, physical attraction IS important I think.
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not ALL of the attraction is solely based on looks. I can't tell you how many guys I have known who have the body of a greek god, but the IQ of a paper plate - No attraction there.
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OMG! ROFLMAO! That is hysterical!!!!!!!!
Okay, on a more serious note. I think that you brought up a good point - what's attractive to me might not be attractive to you. It IS in the eye of the beholder, so to speak.
But nonetheless, whatever it is that you're attracted to, the attraction has to be there for it to work long-term.
Re: Physical Attraction hudson: agreed gulf coast, great responses, thank you.
And I do agree totally that beauty is in the eye of the beholder although, no man will argue with me that anna kournikova is beautiful. So there is that universal beauty.
I'm really leaning towards wowee's point of view. I know that I shouldn't get involved with anyone I'm not "full on" attracted to. But sometimes I do...(see casual sex thread).
Re: Physical Attraction Smiley17: Beauty is a complicated thing. If you have the physical attraction only, you're not going to get anywhere in the long term because you won't really get along, but if you have just the emotional attraction, you can't stand looking at who you're with. So, you have to figure out what's fully attractive to you, and what you can tolerate.
Re: Physical Attraction gulfcoast: a happy medium
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