Re: How to not turn into a complete *$#@% Mr. Joshua: Hi J;
It's called counseling and can work wonders
Do you have insurance that will cover some of it ?
Cut the contact out.
Mike
Oh I do, I was saying that right after I went to my ex's job site and would stare at her picture a lot. I did post her pic. on a fan site and the guys on the site harassed her for a day or two. It was immature and stupid, and I did it after I got the "my life is SO awesome without you" spiel that a lot of us have gotten. It's been a few months and I am slowly sleeping better, and not wanting to look at her online or what she's up to. We've been in no contact for just about a month right now.
Re: How to not turn into a complete *$#@% dgiirl: Stick to NC. Let the anger and hurt out, but do not seek revenge or talk to them. I dont know the full details of your story, so not sure why you want revenge. Did he cheat? Did he leave?
Either case, when my stbxh left, he told me he met another woman. I was extremely angry about the whole thing and wanted revenge. But deep down inside, I wanted him back. So I wanted to control my anger. For whatever reason, my stbxh villanized me. Logically, if I seeked revenge, I would be justifying his thoughts to villanize me. I did not want to give him ANY justification for leaving me, and for leaving the way he did. I wanted him to feel guilty. Very guilty. So I needed to control my anger and I kept to NC. I ranted and raved all over the internet, to *MY* friends (not his, or ours), i let it all out, but I didnt let this get back to him. I knew my friends understood I was hurt and wouldnt hold it against me or him. And noone would find me on the internet.
I also have a lot of respect for myself. He did something very wrong. But I didnt need to stoop to his level. Revenge will only give you temporary happiness, but you wont get the reaction from your ex that you hope to get. You'll only make yourself look worse to everyone else. Respect yourself, and dont seek revenge.
Re: How to not turn into a complete *$#@% jadedangel: [quote author=Mooneyes link=topic=17066.msg145610#msg145610 date=1123941174">
Ok I'm not really sure how to do this. Every now and then I want to be vindictive and mean. Anyone have advice on avoiding this behavior?
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[color=navy"> Oh... is it bad to be vindictive and mean?
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