She has meet someone new!! LONGWAY: Hi everyone,
I posted my story about 1 month ago short and sweet she said she was not in love with me anymore. We have a 20 month daughter she's great.
Ok I was a complet ase for the first year of a daughters life I put friends before my girlfriend and even my baby.
My girlfriend is from canada I'm going through my residencey for canada at the momnet. Over the last 10 months I have been working in ireland for a total of 7 monthd and my grilfriend and daughter where her in canada. She told me over the phone that we were not together anymore.
After she told me that she told me she has been spending time with another guy. Honest with me the whole way through.
I made a decition to go back to canada asap to try and fix things with her itsnow been 6 weeks since she meet this guy I have been back 2 and she told me she thinks she is falling in love with him!!! he is 33 she is 25 I'm 26 he has 5 children 3 differant women no custody of any of his kids. There is even more thing but she says he is a great guy he might be but his track record says differant.
I'm still madly in love with her. Weeks before she said anything to me I decided to change some stuff about my life for me things that would make me a better person Not drinking proritiesing my life with my family first. not lying any more and I have been doing alll these things and many more and am happier in my self J says she knows I have changed . She tells me I'm a great dad, great son great friend a hard worker and lots more I just was not a great husband. We always have been great friends and still are. Just at the moment she says she can't be friends because of her new relationship, she wont descus any thing with her family who are usally really close to her and its the same with her friends the only person she really listens to is this guy.
She says she is not in Love with me anymore and is not attracted to me.
I'm confused, we were in the apartment she is studying our daughter is asleep but she sits beside me in her underwear. I'm confused to what to do now please help.
I not living with her she has taken all our photos down.
I want to start from the begining again holding hands again that first kiss etc. I know what I have and want to do to make it work. But do I have to give her up first to let her make her own mistake before I try to put our lives together again?
Re: She has meet someone new!! Lumpy: [quote author=LONGWAY link=topic=17071.msg145711#msg145711 date=1123957530">
She says she is not in Love with me anymore and is not attracted to me.
I'm confused, we were in the apartment she is studying our daughter is asleep but she sits beside me in her underwear.
I want to start from the begining again holding hands again that first kiss etc. I know what I have and want to do to make it work. But do I have to give her up first to let her make her own mistake before I try to put our lives together again?
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Listen to what she's telling you. There's an inequity in terms of power in your relationship. I'm afraid that you do need to give her up for now. Don't put yourself in uncomfortable situations with her. (Hanging out while she's in her underwear) I see this as kind of a headgame she's playing with you. Try and focus on your daughter and on improving yourself. Do this for YOURSELF. Try and take her out of the equation. Sounds like eventually the OM will show his true colors. Don't be her puppy dog. I hope this works out for you.
Re: She has meet someone new!! LONGWAY: At the moment I'm staying on a friends floor because I have knowhere to live I can't work in Canada the only place I can spend time with my daughter is in our her apartment. We talk about everything she when I ask about the other guy she tells me everything. but she keeps saying I'm frustrating her and know how to push her buttons. but at know time have we rased our voices at each other we are both very diplomatic people. I know I can't make her try again or make her love me. I truly am a good person and she say that two.
Every day she reminds me how I neglected her and let her down In that way she beats me up everyday.
How long do you wait . I'm a strong person and don't see myself ever falling out of love with her I am happy right now with me I just want to make her happy and without question my daughter is both of our first priorities.
Re: She has meet someone new!! Lumpy: Honestly, I wouldn't ask her about the Om at all. It's just going to create bad feelings for you and it's really none of your business at this point. Do you want to play the role of the concerned friend? Offering advice and support for her new relationship? Try and pretend it doesn't exist. (At least in her presence) My best advice is don't wait around. Move on. If at some point in the future, she wants to try, then you can commit yourself to this. Right now she doesn't want that. Why waste your time and effort when she shows no desire to reconcile. Don't let her beat you up either. You've recognized your faults and are attempting to improve yourself. If she doesn't see this then so be it.
Re: She has meet someone new!! LONGWAY: Thank Lumpy,
Its just hard seeing someone you love doing this. She's a big girl I know she has to make her own mistakes.
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