Anyone else in this situation? sigkapgirl: So, my heart really goes out to all of you. My divorce is probably the least complex of everyone on here, and I don't know how those of you with children do it.
BUT - I met my stbx when we were 14. We dated on and off for 8 years. Before he was my boyfriend/husband/whatever, he was my best friend.
Right now, I am having a harder time accepting that I lost my best friend, rather than my husband. Sure, I have other friends, of course, but no one that was my friend for THAT long. He knew everything about me, knew me better than I knew myself, knew things that I had never told anyone. He was there for me at the hardest times in my life, through high school and college. And what is hard for me, is that right now, when this is definitely the worst experience I could ever have imagined, he isn't here.
I'm having a really hard time accepting that my best friend is gone. That he isn't here for me now. And that I've lost the person who really knows my past and what I've been through.
Is there anyone else who is dealing with this kind of thing?
And if not, is there anyone who would like to come to Florida and beat me over the head until I understand and accept it?
Re: Anyone else in this situation? wowee: I won't be coming to Florida for two reasons:
1. My Ex is currently there - :P
2. I don't think you deserve to be beaten over the head.
Having said that, our stories are SOO much alike in many ways( as we have discussed ) and of course there are differences as well. But I met my Ex when I was 17 & pretty much all the same, he really was everything to me. It is so hard to not have that someone you ALWAYS turn to be there for you because they are now the source of all your pain. You feel very alone even if you do have a good family & friend base. You feel like the one person you counted on for almost everything is gone right when you would have needed them the most. No beatings from me, sorry. IF you are wrong, I am wrong & the beatings can make their way to Cali as well. But for my children's sake, take me out back OK? ;)
Re: Anyone else in this situation? AfterMath: Yes! Yes! Me! Me!! OMG TH I can SO relate. Why do the ex's move on so easily? My days lately have been consumed lately with the X best friend (wifey) who left me. She's ALWAYS on my mind no matter what else happens. Sigh. It stinks!
whateva; FLA rocks! Next time I there, your'e gettin' a beatin' girl!
Re: Anyone else in this situation? scraft: I felt the same way when my ex and I slpit. We had been together since I was 15, and then all of a sudden my marriage was over. I dealt with that well compared to other's I knew who went through divorces. Although I was angry with myself for allowing it to happen. But, what bothered me most was losing the person who had been with my every day for 10 years. (We split when I was 25) I would wonder every second of the day if anyone would ever really know me again. Would they know everything there is about me what I love and what I hate, know what my favorite color or song is, and what I want out of my life. I find that I have a hard time letting anyone that close to me. I'm not nearly as open about myself as I once was. I tend to hold my feelings, and my tongue which I didn't do before. Then I came to the conclusion that no one would ever know me so well that they can know what I'm going to say before I say it, or know me so well that they can piss me off with the a push of a button. But, I'm ok with that. I just remind myself that I once had a friend who loved me and accepted me without question, and maybe one day I'll have that again.
Re: Anyone else in this situation? tyrogers: [quote"> is there anyone who would like to come to Florida and beat me over the head until I understand and accept it? [/quote">
Send me the directions...........I am on my way...............When I get done, we can go grab a drink or four............
Love you honey! :-*
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