Re: Anyone else in this situation? dgiirl: Oh I can definitely relate. Fortunately, I have a few friends I knew longer than my stbxh. But he definitely was my best friend and knew everything about me. Fortunately, I know if i'm really really really stuck and need someone, he'll be there. For the moment, I'm not going to rely on him. I'll make it through and use my other friends to help me through it. But I know if it gets really bad , and there's noone there, and i need him, he'll be there.
And I'm actually proud of myself. I relied on him for way too many things. Every single problem I had, I went to him for help. Now I'm facing my own problems and I am proud of myself. You'll get through it. Just hang in there.
Re: Anyone else in this situation? sigkapgirl: Its not so much that I don't know what I'll do without him. I haven't seen or spoken to him in five months (as of tomorrow). I'm getting used to that.
I'm just having a hard time accepting the fact that I'm going to have to go through this again with someone else. I'm going to have to explain my past, explain things that happened to me so they'll understand me, just everything. He knew everything about me. He knew what no one else did. Even my best friends now, they don't know nearly the extent of certain situations I've been through.
I get that my marriage is over. I can't get past the fact that I've lost my best friend in the process.
GR.
Re: Anyone else in this situation? dgiirl: Have you really lost him? Is there absolutely no hope for you guys to talk in the future? You dont have to be friends right now. But say in a year or two from now, cant you email or call him up and see what's going on? My stbxh says he wants that with me. Honestly, I dont know if I want that. Right now I wont worry about it. If it happens, it happens. But knowing that it could happen has helped me dealing with this feeling.
Re: Anyone else in this situation? sigkapgirl: Um, I don't plan on ever speaking to or seeing him again. I have no reason to. I don't want to.
Well, I take that back. I hope that in five years, I'm back home and I see him somewhere around town and have grown 6 inches, am absolutely gorgeous, have a really hot husband, a cute little kid, a killer job, and a really nice car. That's it though. I just need to see him once so that he knows what he is missing out on.
Other than that, no. There is no hope for us being friends. I don't WANT to be friends. I just want to move on with my life - ALONE.
Re: Anyone else in this situation? dgiirl: Trust me, I understand what you are feeling. I've gone through those emotions too.
As for the repeating your history to a new guy. I think that's going to be a good thing for me. He's going to need to understand everything about me. It will be my test on if he's the right person for me. If he can understand everything I've been through, and want to work on a relationship with me, then i found someone truely special.
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