Re: Is your ex still on the breast? His mother's of course.... SleeplessInOhio: Talk about De Ja Voo!!! I contribute part of our marriage failing to his parents, especially his mother!!! We lived across the street from them, talk about being attatched to the teet!!!! He ran to her for everything and still does, no one will ever be good enough for her prefect little baby boy!!! BARF. Anyhow, I feel your pain on this one!!!!!!!!! Good luck girl! :) ;) :D ;D
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Re: Is your ex still on the breast? His mother's of course.... mjhjane1977: Yeah, don't understand why MLTT's mother can't let her baby grow up to be a man. Why would any parent set themselves and their child up for repeated failure. Not only does it cause hardships with reality MLTT will probably never leave the nest or have a chance at relationships. My opinion is that MLTT mom is very codependent and needs to continue to take care of her baby so she continues to have self-worth, but who knows, I could analyze the situation all day, but refuse to. It is a beautiful day here in Omaha Ne and I am going to take my kids to the park and have ice cream. Children can be a great distraction from ugly thoughts such as these above. Books that I have read mostly deal with codependency, recognizing what is is and why you do it, but can't remember what the book was called, borrowed them from my therapist. There are lots out there, will find out at my next session though. Sorry I couldn't help more with the books. Thanks for all the replies, its nice to know that you are not alone.
Re: Is your ex still on the breast? His mother's of course.... AfterMath: Well I just saw this thread & had to give a different perspective. When my ex-wife asked me to leave, I moved into my Mom's house. I'm 40 & she was alone with a big house (that has seperate apartment). It just made sense. My son adores her. My Mother's had a tough time in life: not great health, a difficult divorce 20 years ago, so this situation has allowed both of us to benefit. I help her big time around the house, and she gets to do little things like cook, which she loves, for more than just herself. She seems happier & more content now than I've seen her in years. I can monitor her meds.
I can afford my own place no problem, but I respect my mother probably more than anyone else on the planet right now. And, she needs company too.
Plus she's very a pretty liberal retired HS Engish High School w/ four sons, and she can talk the shit!!!
Bottom line is, people that move back home with a parent after a tragedy
are not necessarily loozzzaas!
