Re: pissed freovir: i DON't WANT to be the bigger person. WHHAAAAAAAA, I WANT MY WAY!!
i did tell the girls several times to make their mother a card, but i wasn't going to force them if they didn't want to.
--fre
Re: pissed alonewith2: [quote author=fre link=topic=17517.msg152113#msg152113 date=1124647414">
i DON't WANT to be the bigger person. WHHAAAAAAAA, I WANT MY WAY!!
i did tell the girls several times to make their mother a card, but i wasn't going to force them if they didn't want to.
--fre
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Then I say.....you did your part, and who cares what she thinks. She can't have it all!! What right does she have to expect more from you?
Re: pissed Tarheel: Ah, birthdays...
I had to pick up my daughter from my (at the time) stbx on my birthday this past April, and she actually had the gall to tell me "Happy Birthday." Lucky me, I had been planning my reply overnight on the offhand chance that she'd be stupid enough to say something. So I told her...
"Like you give a s*** whether I have a happy birthday or not. I suppose 'Happy Birthday' means about as much as 'Happy Valentine's Day' meant two months ago. Ya know, you're not gonna ruin my birthday today like you ruined Thanksgiving and Christmas. Because, yes, I AM going to have a happy birthday, and it will be as such the moment you leave. So if you want me to have a happy birthday so bad, you can get to steppin'... [looks at watch"> ...right about now."
She left, and the birthday still sucked anyway. And in all reality, that was the one of the last times I ever unleashed venom in her direction without attempting to be civil about it. I kinda sorta miss those days when I could cuss her out without having a guilty conscience afterwards.
The day she started fooling around on me was the day I ran out of gas returning from getting her a birthday present. Her birthday is in October, and I'm hoping she'll be out of my hair completely by the time that date comes up on the 2005 calendar.
And "bigger person" my a**. You can give all the comebacks in the world, and it doesn't mean you're not the bigger person. Especially if you're goaded into the comebacks by just another lie being told to you.
Re: pissed Smiley17: Forgive me if I seem harsh here, but I think that the day you separate, and you know the marriage is over, so are the birthday recognitions.
My stbx sent me a birthday card for mine, but I thought it was a pretty low blow. He was the type who always thought that buying something for someone was the ONLY to show love, and that was it. It meant nothing to me, but a threat or a bribe. Scary, I know.
The thing is that we've been separated for more then 2 years, there's no point in giving me a card, or recognizing my birthday. I didn't want one from him, it was like a bribe in my eyes... he wanted something. A card from the sbtx is a warning sign of something bad to come.
I sent him one in "exchange" so I wasn't viewed the "bad" person, and I mailed it the day after his birthday. It's like me saying, "Here, I recognized your birthday back. We're even, we can leave it alone, we're NOT getting back together!"
Our birthdays are over, the marriage is over, I'm not his responsibility, he's not mine. We are two separate people with two separate lives only joined by a missing judge's signature on some papers that STILL need to be filed. That's it!
So, fre, she had no right to ask you for a birthday card. None at all. I don't blame you for being angry. I'd be angry too!
Re: pissed Shanna: I also did not recognise stbxh birthday....on every other holiday I let the kids send him a picture they colored, but not his bday....it was more fun for him to think I forgot.... :D
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