heartbreak results in selfishness. dirk8: I really hate how this break-up has made me so selffish!
I used to be a FUN and CHEERFULL person.
People used to come to me when they have problems, and I cheered them up.
Now, no matter what I am doing, or how many people are around, I am constantly lonely.
I am always thinking about myself, instead of those around me.
I used to pray for my family and my friends.
I used to pray for the hungry and those who are suffering.
Now, when I pray, its all about me and my sorrows.
I have become so selffish.
Instead of bringing the party, I sulk in sadness and ruin the fun.
I use people for their attentive ears.
When they try to tell me their problems, all I do is think about mine.
I hate this.
This is not me.
Please forgive me. :'(
Re: heartbreak results in selfishness. Smiley17: Hey there...
Don't be so hard on yourself right now. You're going through a tough time, and you're bound to get selfish, which is fine as long as you're not using people to take your pain away, or projecting it onto them. If you are, you need to seek help to get you through.
I was involved once with someone who was exactly like you are, and it not only killed my spirit, but it turned me onto him. I lashed out. He took too much from the wrong person. I think he'll think twice the next time. The difference is that he didn't admit he was selfish, which is very dangerous. At least you do, so you're taking steps in the right direction.
My point is that you can be aware of your own selfishness and do something about that. Maybe you can try to talk to a counsellor to help you sort through your pain. You can also try to join in the fun conversations that we have here, too. It's an emotional break from your darkness for a little while, and maybe it help make your troubles not seem so big at that time.
You can and WILL be a fun and cheerful person again, you just have to figure out how to break free. Once you do, you'll find that you're not so selfish after all.
Right now, you have emotional needs too. You just have to be careful of how you rectify them. You can do this!
You're just hurt right now. Everything will be ok, and it'll sort out. You're a good person, don't forget that.
-Smiley
Re: heartbreak results in selfishness. gypsynikki: [quote author=MakeItStopPlease link=topic=17541.msg152182#msg152182 date=1124654020">
I am always thinking about myself, instead of those around me.
I used to pray for my family and my friends.
I used to pray for the hungry and those who are suffering.
Now, when I pray, its all about me and my sorrows.
I have become so selffish.
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That's not selfish. You're grieving. Until that process is over, you need time to think about yourself and sort all of your feelings out. How are you being selfish, when you've always been the listening ear or shoulder to cry on? Don't be so hard on yourself. And you're not alone. dont' be so hard on yourself.
Just my .02
Take care of yourself and your needs then you CAN and WILL be able to help others :)
