Re: Anyone wants to reconcile? Change4better: There is now third party involvement. As far as change goes, My happyness and possitive attitude at least shows her that things are good with me, and lastly, I don't feel is necessary for me to ask her if theres anything i can do to help the situation as i already know the answer, at least for today, I can tell you this, when i do see her after picking up the kids, i ask no question regarding US, I don't push her to reconsile, my focus and concentrations are with the girls. I know that one day she will see the changes within me by my actions. I just wish that i can get some kind of signal that she is missing me and still loves me, but you know how women are, they can cover feelings very well and will not let you show them. sucks but true. thank you so much for your advices and replies
Re: Anyone wants to reconcile? mophead123: Hey C4B,
I think it seems as if you already know the answer. I don't think there is any reason no stop remaining optimistic and hopeful as long as you realize that this will may or may not delay or impede your healing process. It appears you don't want to think that far ahead yet and are looking for a glimmer of hope from someone else's story that reconciliation is possible. Im not saying its not, but it does appear that you have done all you can. I think it might be healthy for you to prepare yourself if that does not occur as it will help you along in the process. Also, if she realizes how happy you are without her sometimes that can work the reverse psychology buttons. i wish I had a btter answer or more positive feedback for you.
Is there any way for you to show her ythat you have changed. Have you asked her if there is anything you can do to help the situation or improve things? Is there are 3rd party involved?
Re: Anyone wants to reconcile? Change4better: 15 years of marriage, about 4 times seperated. this time she means business, at least she filled for seperation, so i do know that FOR now whe trully wants out..but can she change her mind again, under line reason bullet points
Miss Communication
some Trust Issues
and Not appriciating her..
Everything else is good, 2 kids, Love , respect
Right Now she doesn't call but when i pick up the kids, she is Nice with me, meaning talkative.. I don't call her or persue her, as I do know it will make matters worse, I know if she wants me back she will ask or drop hints, and I havan't gotten them yet.. I just wish we can reconsile, at same time I am doing what I have to do, to become a better person for Myself, making my self happier and doing things for myself, this is all that I can do,
Re: Anyone wants to reconcile? mophead123: What are the undelying issues behind your separation.? Why was she unhappy? I think that plays a huge role...
Re: Anyone wants to reconcile? Erin: I am with you....I am 2 days shy of 3 weeks and want him back.
But at the same time, can you really truly trust that person not to do this again?? At what point are you no longer there?
I wish there was a simple answer, but I don' t think that there is...
