wanting to move on. clare710: I really cant see right now how i am ever going to want to move on.
He was all i could ever dream about in a partner and we were so happy, right up until the end. I dont understand, some days i feel a bit more human but i can never shake the fact that this horrible pain isnt fading and i dont even want to try and make it fade.
Sorry, im really low today.
Re: wanting to move on. lghawaiian: Clare,
Everyone has the low days, just hang on, it will pass. When I first came to Ojar, I felt very much the same. The initial stages of the separation and divorce were very painful, and indeed, it felt as though there would be no end. Still feels that way sometimes. Just remember - you can't stop time, and no matter what you do, day will turn to night, and again to day. It will take a long, long time for the pain to subside. If you need anything, let us know. :)
LgH
Re: wanting to move on. dgiirl: Clare *Hugs*
The only thing we can do is put one foot in front of the other. If we can do that, we can get through this. I remember the pain very very clearly, and it's not something that will disappear over night. But the quickest way to get to the other side is to go through it. We have to go through the pain, and as we do, learn as much from the experience as possible. With the amount of pain I went through, I was bound and determined to make something positive out of it. If I could learn just one thing, it made the pain have meaning. You can do it hun. Just put one foot in front of the other and be very kind to yourself. Dont expect to understand everything all in one shot, but slowly in time you will get through it.
Re: wanting to move on. tyrogers: Just remember this.....
For every step forward that you take, expect to take two steps back each time. That way, you don't "let yourself down". As a matter of fact, you will not fall back as much either... and you won't even realize how fast you are moving along! ;)
Chin up honey. It does get better. I promise. You can ask anyone here. IT GETS BETTER!
{{{BIG BIG HUGS}}}
BBH - Tyleena ("Ty")
Re: wanting to move on. clare710: thankyou, you're all so kind and it does help to come on here.
I know i should believe that this will get better but for it to get better i have to move on, move emotionally away from my whole life and on to a life that isnt mine, its something else and i dont want it.
One day he loved me and the next he just didnt any more, his words not mine. this was a serious long term relationship and i cant do this. I never wanted to live alone.
You are all stronger than me! I feel bad for moaning but today i just cant think, it hurts so much.
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