Re: wanting to move on. mine: i thought i would never love again ...after i was left standing at the alter.5 years ago .....i had my own run away bride....
but now i have found true love again .....i wonder if what i had before really was love....
my fiancee , and i are to get married on24th september....and she is the best thing to ever happen to me
and i love her more than i realised one could
Re: wanting to move on. dgiirl: [quote author=clare710 link=topic=17570.msg152661#msg152661 date=1124723305">
One day he loved me and the next he just didnt any more, his words not mine. this was a serious long term relationship and i cant do this. I never wanted to live alone.
You are all stronger than me! I feel bad for moaning but today i just cant think, it hurts so much.
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Clare, my stbxh did the same thing. He totally blindsighted me with his request for a divorce. And on top of that, he had a nice goodbye speech telling me what a horrible person I was, and underminded my capabilities of living alone. I've never lived a single day alone. I went straight from my parents to my husband. I was literally petrified the world would stop and I wouldnt be able to function. I've never cooked, never payed bills, I was suffering from depression and anxiety. I didnt know what to do. But I put one foot in front of the other, and slowly learned how to do even the smallest tasks that everyone else seemed to do naturally. I was embarrassed for not knowing how to do these things, but as I slowly tackled my anxiety and accomplished each task big or small, i grew stronger! I was proud of myself and knew that living on my own was the best thing I can do right now. Is it scary? Sure. But not as scary as I thought it would be. I needed to be independent and know that worse case scenario I can live alone and still be happy. Once I knew that could happen, the future didnt look so bleak.
To move on, you need to challenge yourself. Figure out the things you are scared of, and rank them from small to big and start tackling each one. You will find that you have more strength and courage than you ever thought you had.
