Re: I'm new to this....so here goes... lkt444: Gem,
I can totally relate to what you're saying. I wish I could just be content being alone. I don't know why it seems so depressing thinking that I'll never meet someone to share my life with again.
I've been divorced 4 years and I've dated my share but in my case, I've been the one that seems to hold on when they don't want to date any longer.
I'm hoping that at some point I will be content with my life, but no idea when this might happen..........maybe when I'm 70. :-\
Re: I'm new to this....so here goes... Gem72: Hi lkt444,
Hopefully not when you are 70 ;) but if you didn't do it until then, you could at least say you eventually did! :)
I do blame my wanting/needing someone in my life on my father. He cheated on every woman he has ever been with which made me want to "wear the pants" in all of my relationships so I wouldn't get hurt. I've also ended every relationship I've been in with the exception of two and one of them was when I was in high school.
What has happened though is that I've never truly let my guard down in any of my relationships, even my 9 yr marriage. I think I let it down a little in my last relationship but then I got hurt so what has happened...you guessed it.....my guard is up again.
I have so many friends that experience the same thing that you and I are feeling. All of these women are independent, career-oriented, pretty, etc... and you would think they wouldn't need anyone in their lives and probably don't admit it (except to friends) that they truly feel that way.
Sometimes when I talk to them it is like a broken record. Sometimes I hate to talk to them b/c that is all I hear but I need to be a good friend and support them b/c they have supported me.
Re: I'm new to this....so here goes... lkt444: There is another thread similar to this one "why do I sabotage relationships" under the dating and single life. It's pretty interesting.
Check it out~
Take care
