Re: GOD!! I want to call her, mine: there are ways
you can tell her how you feel ...with out pushing her
just let her know that you are there.......
and leave it up to her.....
Re: GOD!! I want to call her, edgecombe: The seperation is still relatively new, so it's only natural that you would have mixed feelings. It's probably best not to call her since some days everything feels good, and this may just be "one of those days". Give it to time to see how you feel when things stabilize. If you go for an extended period of wanting to call her everyday, then perhaps you should call her rather than waste your energy fighting the feeling.
But, I would say that if you do call her and express your feelings, do it with no expectations. (Obviously, easier said than done). And make it clear to her that you just want to let her know how you feel, you don't expect her to reciprocate your feelings or anything else in return. More like you just want to get it off your chest, not begging her to come back. I myself wouldn't perceive that as desperate.
I'm an eternal optimist, and I believe there is always a chance. But ultimately, you and her are the only ones who know how much water is under the bridge and if you still have a chance.
Re: GOD!! I want to call her, mine: [quote author=Change4better link=topic=17579.msg152675#msg152675 date=1124723990">
Well, it was brought to my attention that if i call, it would seem desperate and would further push her away from me, It hurts that the fact that its been 15 years of marriage, and she doesn't call to tell me she misses me. she was theone that initiated seperation, 3 months, do i have a chance.
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if you do not call ........are you not just playing games
Re: GOD!! I want to call her, Gem72: I'm new to this so I hope I help since I am the one who left my ex.
When I left him (not for anyone else either), he put together this binder with our pics and letters, etc. of our lives together for the last 9 years. I truly didn't love him anymore and it made me push him further away when he kept trying.
If she left you for someone else, she probably doesn't want to get back together but if she left b/c of you not doing certain things in the marriage (being romantic, etc..) then maybe she wants you to show that you do care for her.
I guess I need more info to help....
Re: GOD!! I want to call her, Change4better: 15 years together with her, 2 children,
we have seperated b4 but not to this extent where now its legal
main bullet points are
trust somewhat, I cheated on 3 seperation
and now communication issues on this seperation.
we tried conceling, but didn't work, at least for the long term,
I'm not a bad guy, i do provide lots of attention and affection as well as respect...
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