So lonely, never felt this before ConfusedOOC: .
Re: So lonely, never felt this before picadilly: Hey Confused... I know how you are feeling right now. After my ex left, I woke up the next day & was surprised that the sun was up & the birds were still chirping. Shouldn't the world have ended? It made no sense, that things were moving along in the world the same as before, but that is the case.
You will get past this, only I think you will know it yourself once you come to realize that you don't need someone else to be with to be happy. I think for now, looking for anyother relationship would be too soon, rebounding. Anyway, just take it day by day & know you're not alone & if you need to post something, we're always here.
PS, you're not weak, this takes a lot out of anyone... I cried constantly over the smallest little reminder of her back then. It will pass too.
Be well.
Re: So lonely, never felt this before dgiirl: Confused, are you sure there's no chance for reconcilation? Has your stbxw shown any remorse for what she's done? Do you believe her? Do you trust that she's learned her lesson? Do you trust yourself to be able to handle the situation if she cheated on you again?
We're all scared to be alone. That just shows how dependent we are on people. But sometimes, when we're too dependent on people, we lose ourselves. We need to become a little independent at times too. It's a balance between the two that make us a healthy individual.
My first reaction is to seek some counselling either IC or MC and see if you can rebuild the marriage, or atleast figure out what you want. It is possible to recover from infidelity if the unfaithful spouse truely is sorry for what they've done and is willing to put in the effort to save the marriage. But you need to be able to trust her, and sometimes the damage is so much that we cant. If you truely know it wont work, then dont stall the divorce. Get it done and over with. The more you hold onto a dead relationship the longer it takes for you both to heal.
Re: So lonely, never felt this before microtech1: I think you are already starting to take the steps you need to heal. Realizing that the only attraction to your wife is your own lonliness is huge. How many people would do the easy thing and just run back to her despite knowing it wasn't what they wanted. You said that it sounded weak but man that is strength most people don't have.
I would agree with pic that it seems to soon to be looking for anyone new. Just focus on yourself and want you really want. If that divorce or reconciliation. Good luck and I hope things get better soon.
Re: So lonely, never felt this before judy: do you have a pet? my dog has pulled me many down and lonely days.
Judy
