Happy Ojarverssary to me! Suddenly Single: As of today I am 1 year old in Ojar land. I joined last year - divorced, devastated and dealing with a stalker. Needless to say - times were not good. I was not happy with who I became and how I handled the stalker situation. I was preyed upon and I had a hard time with getting myself out of the situation - something very uncharacteristic for me. I had lost my home, a partner, friends, family and my lifestyle. I was living on my own for the first time in my life and as of 1 year ago - not doing very well at it. I felt very alone. I have no brothers or sisters and basically just have my mom and stepdad. Many of my friends were also friends with my ex and they just stayed with the "group" The rest of my friends I don't think really knew what to do for me....other were still married with/without kids and were busy with their own lives. I was becoming depressed and was very confused about my feelings on ... well ... everything. I was happy to be out of my divorce but still mourned so many aspects of it - I was confused. I had thought I met a great guy - only to find out I was being decieved in a manner that I've only seen in the movies. I was hurt. I was confused. I was not happy.
A friend suggested that I look for a divorce support group to attend. Out of emotional desperation one year ago I decided to do a google search and well I bet you can figure out what support group I found. Ojar was free and anonymous - 2 things that were very appealing to me at the time. (and two things that have really changed since this past year!)
I came on here expecting to post a few times...read what others had to say and then it would just fizzle out. I would not log on anymore and give up in my way that I usually do. I did not think that anyone would post back to my story. But someone did...he's not around anymore that I've seen but I'll never forget Cloud. After he posted - I read many of his posts and felt welcome here. His return post to me gave me the reassurance that I was noticed here and that people would care and take time. I began posting more and before I knew it - I had some online friends.
Before I knew it Ojar was consuming large amounts of my time and Ojar chat was consuming even more. I started to see an improvement in myself realizing the many feelings that I had were very normal and shared by many people.
There are so many names that I remember from last year - people I spent time with and people that I continue to spend online time with because they are still here. Over this past year I have had the honor of personally meeting some GREAT ojarians. Frid (my first ojar friend!), ISO, Sully, Skavachi, Blinder, Beren, CapnKin, DJ, Amola, TWG....just to name a few... and of course my main Ojar man....MJ .....
I can safely say that without Ojar I would not be where I am today.
I am in a much happier and safer place in my life and even though I have things to work on about myself the amount of things that I have learned about myself have been amazing.
This past year has been a wonderful journey. Thank you to all the Ojarians that have made a difference in my life. I don't even want to start naming names because I WILL forget someone important. But I have to mention two.... MJ and ISO and they know why and they know how I feel!
To any newbies that may be reading this...... the place you are in now is not your permanent residence. You will heal - you will grow. Stay open to learning about yourself and do not fear life and love again. We all move at our own pace - it does get better.
Peace. SS
Re: Happy Ojarverssary to me! ti-poux: [quote"> This past year has been a wonderful journey. Thank you to all the Ojarians that have made a difference in my life. I don't even want to start naming names because I WILL forget someone important. But I have to mention two.... MJ and ISO and they know why and they know how I feel!
To any newbies that may be reading this...... the place you are in now is not your permanent residence. You will heal - you will grow. Stay open to learning about yourself and do not fear life and love again. We all move at our own pace - it does get better.[/quote">
All I can say is WOW!!!
and happy ojarverssary
Hugs
Chantal
Re: Happy Ojarverssary to me! AmyMarie1972: This is such a great post because it really does show how we can all get through anything. Many many congrats SS and thank you for posting this.
Amy
Re: Happy Ojarverssary to me! in_search_of: SS! you are the greatest! you know that we all love you so much! Happy ojarversary. Its amazing how far we have all come since we met so many moons ago. On a somewhat impromptu trip to St Louis! Amazing how time flies. who knew that you would have up and moved your life onward and upward, and that I would be where I am...amazing huh?
Good luck!
And you know that we love you tons!
Re: Happy Ojarverssary to me! AloneandCold: Congratulations on all you have done in such a short time, a year really isn't that long have accomplished what you have already. :) Hugs to you! Boy we had some days on chat, didn't we? :) ;D
Bug
