how do i understand this? EssieDotCom: The story goes my husband is suppose to be helping me move back to wv this weekend. He reserved a truck and took leave off work so he could help me. But since middle of last week things have been weird. I started a new depression med and I've become rather "mellow" to put it lightly. He's become, I don't know how to say it... but I was lieing on the sofa this past sunday almost out of it and he says' come here' so i walked over to him and he hugs me and says "go take a nap I've got the kids.' When he gets off the phone with me anymore he says 'i love you' like we use to do, since I don't believe in goodbyes, I've always taught my children to say I love you at the end of a phone conversation to a loved one. he walks up behind me in the kitchen while i'm cooking the other night and kisses me on the neck like he use to do, which in any case I don't mind at all, these are the things i love about my husband, but it caught me by suprise. In general he has been acting and loving me like he use to do. I've made some personal changes myself. I greet him at the door like I use to do, with a hug and a kiss and ask him how work went. I haven't blown up at every little thing he says (that use to seem to po me every time), and I've generally been an understanding person. I guess this has been a part of the new meds I'm on where, i just mellow out (for lack of a better word). Yesterday he is cooking dinner and asks me to come out into the kitchen, where he's sitting on the floor, so i sat down next to him, and he pulls me closer to him and puts his arm around me. So i put my head on his chest, and at this point I had tears falling from my eyes. It's been so confusing the last few days and I know he still wants me to move on friday. He moved the tears from my cheeks with his finger and just sat there and held me, in silence. So how am i suppose to undersand all of this? How do I cope with this kind of love?
Re: how do i understand this? Ilosther: EQ, I'm sorry for your emotional torture here. It's crazy how emotions can be like a lightning bolt, it can strike anywhere, anytime.
I feel yours is feeling the reality of you moving out. No matter what the marriage was like, your existence together under 1 roof is about to end. Maybe he's getting really sad about that, and wants to just cherish the last days. I know I did. I didn't want to move out, but I knew there was no other choice. So, toward the end of living together, things were so nice. We slept next to each other, we did things together, as a family, as a couple.
I dont know how you can deal with this kind of love, but you just have to move on. It even makes me sad to read your closeness with him right now, after all this. I used to be able to hug my wife with some kind of meaning, now when I see her, if I do ask to hug her, it's all me, nothing reciprocated. I so miss her touch.
Good luck with your move, it's definitely not fun to move, especially to move away from the life you once knew. God bless.
Re: how do i understand this? Cowboy12: As Havehope stated It even makes me sad to read your closeness with him right now, this is a tough place to be at.. Your emotions and feelings must be very confused right now...
Can you discuss how you feel to a third party, i.e. a counsellor, a close friend etc... they may be able to help you deal with all your feelings in a more positive manner.
Be gentle on yourself, the answers will come.. God bless you EQwidowX2B
