Re: I made it through another night.... charmed: I may be in the minority here, but I don't like the phrase "moving on". It makes me feel that I need to fake how I feel - to PUSH myself into a place I may not be ready for. For me, it's about "accepting" the break-up and then using constructive steps that enhance my life outside of the break-up, about being the best person I can be, buliding myself as a person, building my life in a manner that is fulfilling. All the things we should do whether we've had a break-up or not. The emotional pain will be with me as I take these steps, but I won't fake what I feel and push myself out of the emotions. They have their purpose and in time, they will fade. I think we often feel we have to force ourselves "not to feel" when sometimes we simply have to accept our feelings.
I'm glad you made it through the night Kat and you don't have to fake anything or force yourself into anything. Accept your feelings, but don't drown in them ;D
(((hugs)))
`charmed
Re: I made it through another night.... Kat0628: I meant fake it till you make it …more or less to mean making myself smile…even though I don’t really feel like it…It kinda makes the day a little easier…not like I really have a choice but to fake it…I was told not too long ago that if I didn’t keep up a cheery appearance and sound happy when I answer the phones…that I will lose my job… I need to be happy 24 freaking 7 at my job….
Oh joy
Re: I made it through another night.... clare710: I didnt necessarily mean be fake or pretend to be ok when ur not....im not sure what i ment, im just trying to work out what im doing i think!
I dont like the phrase 'moving on' either! I just want to stamp my feet and cry 'But i dont want to!! I never intended to have to!'
Its just a time passing thing, the whole one foot in front of the other, realising another day has dragged by and you're still going.
Re: I made it through another night.... Kat0628: [quote"> Its just a time passing thing, the whole one foot in front of the other, realising another day has dragged by and you're still going.[/quote">
so very true...thanks for helping me put it into perspective
[quote"> I just want to stamp my feet and cry 'But i dont want to!! I never intended to have to!'
[/quote"> thats exactally how I feel...
Re: I made it through another night.... clare710: Stamp your feet and shout it then! Cant do any harm to do what you feel.
What is perspective? My relatives keep telling me stories about people who are going through all kinds of awful things, i think its a kind of 'things could be worse for you' thing.
Its all very well putting things into perspective but you're going through your own personal tragedy and you need to be selfish to get through the days...so i dont understand the whole perspective thing.
I am using the word 'thing' far to much!....
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