I am a emotional mess BarbJo: I can't stop crying. I am shaking and can't eat. I can't even talk to my attorney without crying. I don't know what to do. He keeps yelling at me and throwing his legal threats at me. I am so scared of what he might do. He hasn't even called to schedule time to see his own daughter on her birthday. He 4th birthday is tomorrow. I want to make the right discusstion. I want my daughter to see her father. But do I keep putting up with the anger and emotional hurt? Please give me advise. I don't know what to do?
Re: I am a emotional mess sigkapgirl: You'll be alright! The first weeks and months are always the hardest!
Is there anyone that you can go through someone else concerning contact with your daughter? A family member or a friend or something? That way, you essentially have no contact, but can still schedule times for him with your daughter and things.
Don't put up with his anger and legal threats. If he is going to make threats of a legal nature, then have his attorney contact your attorney.
Oh, btw, my birthday is tomorrow too :) Tell your daughter happy birthday from Ojar! ;D
You'll get through this! Its okay to cry and shake and not eat - not for an extended period of time though! Take care of yourself!
Re: I am a emotional mess dgiirl: Barbjo, my stbxh did something similar :( When he first left, the first two months he kept hounding me to settle. I eventually had enough of it and simply told him to back off, I'm not making any decisions right now that I will regret and it's in HIS best interest to back off, otherwise i'm going for blood.
I was an emotional wreck and definitely couldnt think straight. Thankfully I had my parents around and they told me to protect myself financially and I found a lawyer. He told me my rights and I felt a little better about the whole situation. My stbxh was adamant that what he was offering me was fair, and it was a lot less than what i was entitled to. You do NOT need to make any decisions when you're an emotional wreck. Give yourself some time to greive. It will help you clear your mind and make sure you dont regret anything. However, do make sure you find a lawyer, and make sure you're not responsible for any of his debts. If you have any joint credit cards or bank accounts, remove your name so that he cant create any more debts in your name.
See if you can get your lawyer to stall the legalities until you are emotionally ready.
Good luck hun! *hugs*
