Been NC for 6 weeks avoj: Well it's been 6 weeks since I last saw and spoke with my ex partner of 7-years. It hurts. I know in my heart she was having an emotional affair with someone at work.
I just can't believe how cold and uncaring this person became. I still hurt. I still think about her, but obviously she has moved on and is in love with another. We had 5 cats together. LOL. She loved them so much. She walked out on them too.
How does someone go from caring to this total heartless biotch?
I am interested in hearing what other's wayward spouses said, did and what led you to believe there was an affair.
It's called the "script".
Mine said. "I'm not in love with you"
I never loved you
We aren't compatiable
I need space
I need to move out on my own for awhile
when asked if we would get back together she said she didn't know
when asked if she was cheating. she would say no we are just friends
she treated me like poo
never came home after work
came home really late
got right on the phone with her friend
stayed out all weekend including nights
called the same person 190 times in one month, 800 text messages sent and received in same period
lied about where she was going
bought new undergarments
was constantly on the phone. locked her cell phone so i couldnt see
put a pw on her laptop
got defensive and started fights and tryed to tell me i was the one starting the fights
the list goes on and on
how about you guys/girls
Re: Been NC for 6 weeks Tarheel: I could pretty much cut and paste just about all of that and it would describe my ex-wife. Though I caught her after about a month of solid suspicion. Staying out to all hours of the night. Going to work early/coming home late. New friends. New clothes. Denial of any cheating. Not in love with you anymore. Don't wanna be married anymore. Blah blah blah.
It's never about them - they're not the one with the problem. Since you're unable to be the person for them anymore because of your alleged problems, they get selfish. And that's where it begins to show that you really weren't the one with problems. That's when their little facade falls apart and they get exposed for the lairs they are.
Chin up, keep up the no contact, and take it one day at a time. You'll be fine, buddy. :)
Re: Been NC for 6 weeks dgiirl: Oh geesh where do I start.
* I never loved you
* I was desperate to not be alone, so i married you
* I was scared what everyone would think of me if i left you
* I never wanted to get married
* You should have done more then just ask me if everything was ok
* I feel like i'm cheating on her being with you
* It will take a miracle if in a year i come back to you
* All you've done is take and take, and all i've done is give and give and this is the universes way of balancing things out
* Dont f*ck up the house because you want to be independent. Call me if there's a problem
* I dont love you the way a man should love his wife. I love you like a sister
* I just dont have any more in my heart to give you
* It's not you, it's me
