Question about name changing kaya26: Just wanted to know how long you waited to change your name back to your maiden name? Or how long she waited to change hers back? My wife initiated the separation. Divorce is the next step. I am the one who has been hurt and left feeling violated. I think she doesn't deserve to use my last name. Just wanted to know if this is something that even crosses her mind at all? Does she care that she still uses my name? Does it bother her at all? Any thoughts?
Re: Question about name changing charmed: If you change back to your maiden name it is easiest to do during the divorce procedures.
I kept my married name because otherwise you have to make changes in a zillion places - utility companies, banks, driver's license, social security and the list goes on.
I had my married name longer than my maiden name. Going back to my maiden name would have felt kinda odd after all these years. I did at one point decide to use my maiden name, but found out all the red tape involved.
Also, I share my married name with my children. I earned it LOL
My husband did not want me to keep my married name and put up a big fuss with our lawyers. It wasn't his decision to make. But, I wasn't the one that treated him like crap either.
I can understand your feelings, but since the law states that she can choose either her maiden name or her married name, you can't do much about it. The laws may be different in different locals, but I don't think so.
I can understand how you feel violated in her taking yet another part of you, but in the end it probably isn't worth the emotional damage you'll do to yourself in letting it get to you.
My guess is that she doesn't give the name much thought. Or it could be a form of revenge. It's really hard to tell.
I wish you the best-
(((hugs)))
`charmed
Re: Question about name changing charmed: [quote"> And charmed -- your husband tried to force you to take back your maiden name?! Are you serious? Shocked[/quote">
He sure did to the point he made an ass out of himself in front of our lawyers. He thought he had the power to make the decision for me. NOT!!! He was even more pissed off when he knew he couldn't do a thing about it.
Re: Question about name changing tara: I took mine back at the time of the divorce. My ex didn't care either way -- ours was a mutual breakup. No kids. (From what I gather, his fiancee will not be changing her name when she marries him.)
It was a pain in the butt, which is why I'm never changing my name again. I'm willing to be Mrs. Hislast socially, but not legally or professionally.
Re: Question about name changing SleeplessInOhio: I've almost got everything changed back to my maiden name. I was only married for less than 2 years. So it's not a big deal for me to change it back, plus I don't want his last name anymore.
I think I started changing it on stuff a few months after the seperation. I am actually going this week to get my new license with my "new" last name and new address put on it, how exciting!
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