Re: Question about name changing jillieb44: I'm taking mine back during the divorce proceedings. I use it professionally anyway, and now that I moved I opened all of the utilities in my maiden name again. Nobody cared. All that will be left when the divorce is final is my driver's license and my bank account (already have my business account in my maiden name anyway).
Jillie
Re: Question about name changing alonewith2: My mother and father divorced when I was about 6 years old. Then she remarried. My stepfather divorced her when I was 17 years old. She decided when I was 24 years old to go back to my father's last name, but only because of all of us kids......she said it would make it easier for people in our town to recognize her as our mother, and so that people wanting to contact us would be able to find it in the phone book easier. Anyway, she never contacted my father to see what his feelings on it were. She hadn't used that last name in 18 years. She cheated on my father with my stepfather and that was why they got divorced. I understood my mom's reasonings behind changing her name, but thought it was wrong not to get my father's permission first.
Re: Question about name changing in_search_of: Hell, the best part of my divorce was getting rid of his last name, and the last name of his wretched family.
oops, did I say that....darn it....I hate it when things come out like that ...
But, it really is a personal choice. I had always said that I would never change my name if I remarried, that situation has of course changed now. And while marriage is a ways down the road still, when/if G and I marry, I will take his last name, because that is what the baby will have for a last name, and it makes sense for us all to have the same last name. I told him this was his way of tricking me into taking his last name...because he was not thrilled about me keeping my name. Professionally however, I will always use my maiden name, simply because that is what is on my diplomas and all my professional licenses.
Re: Question about name changing browngreen: I recently got a credit card offer with my maiden name on it, and I usually toss the things, but it felt so good to see "Me" again, that I got the card.
It came in the mail, and I put it in my wallet.
I'm not positive if I'll change my name back. I don't think my H cares a great deal about it one way or another. In some ways, I couldn't wait to change my last name, to be married, have one name on the mailbox be OURS.
But then a freind said she always thought my maiden name sounded like a rockstar, and I started to long for it....
So, It's up to what I like best.
Also, there's soemthing about leaving it as is... I mean, why fuss over something so slight? Also, it sort of acts as proof, as a reminder, that I was married, that I did that, that I got what I wanted once, and will keep that history alive and around.
But it also kinda creeps me out when I think of it in association with him and his family, and not knowing them any longer.
BG
