Re: Question about name changing paralyzed: I don't know why we have to take his name to begin with. I didn't want to, but he threw a fit. I felt like I was giving up my identity - my college degree and all of my other accomplishments had my maiden name on it. Why should getting married change who I was? But I took his name because he was so upset at the thought that I wouldn't. Now I'm grateful I did because I share the same last name as my son.
As for forcing her to take back her name...although I can certainly understand your anger at her and question why she would want to keep it if she initiated the divorce, it really is her choice. She chose to take your name when you married and she has to choose what name she wants now.
It might not be fair, but neither is changing our names when we marry you.
Re: Question about name changing kaya26: We have no kids so I don't see her keeping my name. I was just curious to see what peoples feelings were on the subject. I just would find it weird for her to use my name when she is in a relationship with someone else? Maybe she just doesn't think about it or care??
Re: Question about name changing sourpuss: she may not even think about it.
the name change is a personal descision we gals make when we marry.
i did not change my name, since i thought i am still "me", so why change it. i have a friend who has been married 3 times, & has changed hers every time she married & changed it back each time she divorced.
it has different signifcance to everyone. it's something you don't have any say in, so try not to let it bother you, whatever she does.
Re: Question about name changing tara: [quote author=kaya26 link=topic=18022.msg159309#msg159309 date=1125438025">
We have no kids so I don't see her keeping my name. I was just curious to see what peoples feelings were on the subject. I just would find it weird for her to use my name when she is in a relationship with someone else? Maybe she just doesn't think about it or care??
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Well, remember, it's not just "your name." It's been her name, too. Perhaps she's accomplished much professionally or personally under that name, or it's become part of her identity, and the thought of changing it back to a name she doesn't feel belongs to her (she may think of it as her father's name, for instance) is worse than the reminder of the failed marriage.
Just a thought.
Re: Question about name changing hardened_heart1970: i kept my maiden name, and was glad ::)
it took her maiden name back, and that was awesome, as now she has no association with the kids, me, or my family as in name, i mean.
this way, i can just tell people my kids are adopted...... just kidding... no... yes....no....
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