Re: To be friends or not? Mart: We are still "friends". I agree that trust is a factor in a friendship, and I don't totally trust him now. A friend would not have hurt me and done what my ex did to me. But we are still "friends"... whatever that means...
I think the recovery might be easier if you are not friends. I just cannot stop being "friends" with my ex.
Re: To be friends or not? dgiirl: [quote author=Mart link=topic=18024.msg159537#msg159537 date=1125487512">
I think the recovery might be easier if you are not friends. I just can't not be "friends" with my ex.
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Can you still be friends when he starts dating other people and wants to tell you about it? That's one thought I know I cant handle until i'm recovered. So until then, no contact. Besides, there's a difference between being friendly and being a friend.
Re: To be friends or not? genesplicer: [quote author=dgiirl link=topic=18024.msg159543#msg159543 date=1125490294"> Besides, there's a difference between being friendly and being a friend.[/quote">
dgiirl - This says ALOT. It's easy to forget sometimes that there really is a huge difference, especially when dealing with someone you love. You want to be friendly (goes back to the whole being civil idea), but you don't have to be friends.
Re: To be friends or not? judy: After the pain and sadness he caused me -- I could not be friends, expecially since he is the one that walked out.
Judy
