Talking About Marriage? Smiley17: Last night he and I were laying down on my bed talking, we do that a lot, but the subject of marriage came up. It wasn't a freaky kind of talk, or one that would scare me, but we started talking about weddings that we've either been to, or been in, including my own.
It seems as if we have the same view and want the same type of wedding, if that ever happens. We weren't talking about us getting married, just hypothetically speaking.
We've spent every day together for over a week, which is weird for me, but I don't mind it. I'm actually happy to be able to sit with someone every day and watch tv, kiss, etc. It's just nice to see someone, smile, hug, and all that stuff. But, in no way do I want to get married again - at least not now - and he knows this. I like my life the way it is.
When we sit on my couch and watch tv, he kisses my ears (big weakness of mine!), and it usually gets me going, but last night I felt so content, that I actually started giggling each time he tried. Ok, fine, whateva.
All that being said, have any of you ever talked about weddings within the first week of really dating someone? Is this normal?
-Smiley
Re: Talking About Marriage? jason_stl: I have one for you: are you questioning whether or not you should feel this comfortable this early on?
To answer your question: nope. Then again, I have talked about other important aspects of life within days of meeting someone else and in my mind that ranks right up there with weddings. It always helped to gauge how freaked they are going to be when the skeletons conversation comes up. Good for you on finding someone you can open up to about your life.
Re: Talking About Marriage? Smiley17: Well, Jake, to answer your question: Maybe that really is what I'm questioning. I'm an emotional person, but I'm logical person too. I guess it's hard for me to realize that it might be ok to talk about this stuff early. But, at the same time, I'm waiting for that other shoe to drop, and I don't want to get too comfortable too early.
Everyone keeps telling me to just enjoy him, but what if I really start to and something goes horribly wrong? I already know that he's totally ok with my life, but you just never know.
What's funny is that I'm not afraid of losing him to someone better than I am, not like I was with the other people I've dated. For some reason, he feels safer, and I don't have to *fight* to keep him around. He's just here, and here because *he* wants to be. Do you have any idea how foreign that is to me? It's great, don't get me wrong, but it's just a little strange - out of my weird comfort zone.
I guess I'm just asking what's ok, and what's not ok. But, is there really an answer to that question?
I feel healthy, but is this healthy?
Re: Talking About Marriage? Yeehaw: [quote author=Smiley Girl link=topic=18030.msg159257#msg159257 date=1125434268">
. For some reason, he feels safer, and I don't have to *fight* to keep him around. He's just here, and here because *he* wants to be. [/quote">
Whether you kick him to the curb or marry him one day - do us all "nice guys" a favor and don't take him for granted!
IMO
Dennis
Re: Talking About Marriage? Smiley17: That was just a bit harsh, don't you think? Why would you think that I would take him for granted?
Just because he feels safe, it doesn't mean that I'm going to take him for granted. I love the way he is with me, and I feel safe, that counts for a lot more than you can imagine, especially after everything I've been through. Plus, I'm not like that!!! But, thanks! >:(
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