FEEL TRAPPED!! Ian: ARGH!
Today is my weekday with my 2 1/2 year old daughter - I also get her every other weekend. My boss announces to me at 4:30 that I can't leave until I finish this huge project (that I had never heard of before - not my fault it is last minute!) and when I say it is my day with my daughter he just acts like it doesn't matter and can't I just keep her another time! My ex goes ballistic when I call and makes me feel so guilty - "Ilve been telling her all day that she gets to see daddy tonight" etc. What can I do???????????????
I then get into it with boss but can't press to hard because I need the job - so here I sit at work, pissed off, and not seeing my daughter tonight. Also managed to piss off the ex who stayed home from work to keep our daughter all day because of damage from the hurricane last night closed preschool. She had made plans for tonight - she says anyway - and said that I just prove to her again and again that I am worthless and an awful person because I care about my job too much. She then adds, of course, that I better not quit and be unable to help support our daughter (I agree) so I feel completely caught in a trap. Anyway, just wanted to vent!!
Re: FEEL TRAPPED!! sourpuss: sorry to hear it, ian. damned if you do, damned if you don't.
don't have any advice, i'm afraid, just support....
Re: FEEL TRAPPED!! alonewith2: All you can do is just let her know that you were looking forward to spending time with your daughter, too. Let her know that you were just as upset as she was, but there was nothing you could do. Tell her that the only reason you couldn't was because you care so much about supporting your daughter so you couldn't risk getting fired from your job. Then offer to take your daughter another day.....and let her pick the day.
If she's still upset, then she's just being a pain in the butt.......things happen, the world isn't a perfect place!! You did your best, and it wasn't your fault!!!
Re: FEEL TRAPPED!! Ian: Thanks for the comments. I finally got home at 9:00. All I wanted to do tonight was seen my beautiful little girl - I have her tomorrow but she is the only light in my life right now and all I have to look forward to. I spent all day thinking about being with her tonight and through no control of my own that was taken away from me. I wish I could just start everything all over again - my ex and I had everything together and our daughter could and would be so happy if we could even take her out to dinner together or take her to the park together but she won't do it. Being divorced
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