parents driving me nuts!!!!! packer_girl79: Ok, has anyone else's parents been horning in on their divorce and treating them like they can't do anything right? Mine have NO CLUE about all of this, nobody in my fam has ever gotten a divorce. True, my stbx is a total d-ck, but this is a no fault divorce state, and I can't get it through my parent's heads that most of what he did has no bearing on the divorce itself. They went so far as to call my lawyer today. I am so tired of this. I am a full time student, I have 2 kids, am going through a divorce and I don't need more stress. I have told them that I need support, not this, and they say I'm being "cranky". HELP!!!!!!
Re: parents driving me nuts!!!!! alonewith2: My mother tried to dictate to me all the things I should have been doing, but she stopped when I told her that I was in no way taking advice from someone who had cheated on her first husband (my dad) and then years later carried on an affair with a married man......yeah, she doesn't butt in anymore.........
Re: parents driving me nuts!!!!! sourpuss: my family did in the beginning, but i just smiled and said i was taking care of things and changed the subject.
now they just don't ask unless i bring it up.
Re: parents driving me nuts!!!!! tara: My mom tried to impress on me the need for a lawyer, even though Al and I agreed on just about everything, and it was a no-fault state. (She was used to the horrible divorces of her friends, in fault states.)
"What if you move out first? You'll need a lawyer to protect your interest in the house; otherwise, it'll be seen as abandonment."
"Well, what about the stuff you don't agree on?" "It's just little petty stuff, mom. Kitchen stuff, crap like that. We're rock-paper-scissoring for it." "You need a lawyer; you don't want to get short-changed." "You want me to pay a lawyer $200 an hour, and Al to pay another $200 an hour, to decide who gets $300 worth of kitchen stuff, when the outcome will be materially the same as doing rock-paper-scissors?" (That ended the conversation.)
Just remind yourself that you are free to hang up, walk out or otherwise end the conversation -- politely if you can, firmly if they won't listen the first time.
