Re: To leave, or make her go?? ajw: She went outside the relationship...so she can go outside the house...she should go not you
Andy
Re: To leave, or make her go?? Rachael: I am not in your situation, but maybe similar to the point that we are together in the home, but he has stated more than once that he doesn't know if he wants to be there (for me). It is draining to face him and act happy and keep positive for the kids. I know that I will never walk out on the boys and our home because I will have to live with that (as will they) and maybe that is why he won't leave either. You have to face each day and look in the mirror and be happy with the decisions you make - even if other people are making it difficult. That is probably why I have not asked him to leave. Let him live with that if/when it happens.
Try to stay strong and know that you are a good person.
Re: To leave, or make her go?? ajw: So lets get this right,she lies and cheats on you......she continues to see the person she cheated with everyday but claims they are just a friend,she tells you she has no feelings for you but she gets all misty eyed when you talk about seperating and she wants you to tell everyone its a mutual split because she's afarid she'll look bad........Be honest with yourself,does this person have your best interests at heart in any way,shape or form.Don't whatever you do move out......she's the one who f**ked up.I think at the moment she cant forgive herself for what happened thats why she's pushing you away.
Andy
Re: To leave, or make her go?? Chris101: Thanks very much for you replies, its helped me a lot.
ajw>wow you read things perfectly, its the very things she has said at different times.
My next problem I can see, what if she refuses to leave, any thoughts on how I could make this happen(and keep the peace)? I just can't go on any longer the way things are.
Re: To leave, or make her go?? piper: i've been there and unfortunatly you cant make someone fall back into love with you. Hopefully she will realize what she lost. But dont hang on too long to help her financially or she might begin to use you as a crutch. help her to move on and out so that you can begin to pick up your pieces.
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