Sweet ... or psycho? LettinGo: Need your opinions, because I have no idea what it is like to be in a "real" relationship, this being my first post-sep. one (esp. since I was with my ex since very young).
So, I am seeing this man now for a few months, long distance. He lives a little over 2 hours away. Being that I only have two free weekends per month and we both have demanding careers, we see eachother only on those weekends. I thought it was working for us ... I mean, it works for me! I am really busy during the week between work and the kids, and I will not introduce a man to my children unless we are very serious, so I only see him when the kids are with my ex.
Anyway ... this past weekend he was up to visit. About 5 hours before he had to leave, he started getting upset. Then, he started crying. Tears. For over an hour.
I felt terrible and didn't know what to do! He just kept saying what an awful feeling it is having to leave, etc. etc. and talking about how things have to change! :o I do NOT want him to uproot his life and move, and he has mentioned that several times. We just aren't that serious yet!
When he is gone, I *DO* miss him very much!! However, not at the point that I am hysterically crying in front of him for an hour. :-\
Soooooo ... is this weird that he did this?? Is it cute?? Is he obsessed (my mother's POV)?? ???
Is this normal? And, how do I handle it in the future? And I don't mean to sound bitchy, but I don't want to spend half of our weekends together consoling him! Plus, I do care about him and it bothers me to see him so distressed ... although ... I have to admit, it is a bit of a turn off.
Ugh.
Kelly
Re: Sweet ... or psycho? Bubba: If a woman cries like that for the same length of time, for the same reason would she be considered a psycho? I make you bet she wouldn't. I know BBH always cries when one of us has to leave. ALWAYS! Of course me being a guy, I simply don't cry. Like many guys, I was raised that men just don't do that. Many times women complain about guys like me. You have a guy who displays his emotions, the way women say they want us too, and you ask if he is a psycho. Personally I do find it odd that a guy would be like that, but I have a good friend that cries all the damn time! He cried at my wedding, while I just stood there smiling and cracking jokes. In short, just because he is emotional in a similiar way as many women, it doesn't mean he is a pyscho.
Bubba
Re: Sweet ... or psycho? jillieb44: How is he when you are apart? Does he call several times a day? E-mail all the time? Whine about getting together sooner?
Sounds odd to me, and would also be a turn-off. Sure, I can see his point that he's going to miss you for 2 weeks, but it's 2 weeks!!
I'd tread carefully...
Jillie
Re: Sweet ... or psycho? LettinGo: Bubba,
I used the term "psycho" lightly ... I was trying to be funny. I don't think that he is really a lunatic, although I do think it is a little strange and wanted other's opinions.
Re: Sweet ... or psycho? Bubba: LOL - I wasn't trying to slam you LettinGo, I was just pointing out the double standard. Truth be told one thing I always thought that though many women say that want a guy who is in touch with his emotional side, they really don't. The simply fact is our culture still shows that man should be strong both emotionally and physically. Women, for the most part, don't want a guy more emotional then them.
Bubba
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