Crazy situation, crazy wife irishman33: hello all~
i have posted off and on here for almost 5 months and have gotten some very good advice in regards to my situation. for those of you that don't know, i have been separated for almost 8 months now and there has been infrequent contact between us. recently, i called my wife up and wanted to get some information regarding an account we have. she then started talking about our relationship (first time in almost 8 months). i asked her if she was joking about getting back together (she threw that in my face when she found out about me dating someone). she told me that she was serious and was thinking about it.
we then started talking about us and how i would like to go to counseling with her. mind you, i have been going to counseling off and on for a little while. anyways, she never said no to anything i was talking about and never interrupted once.......i was truly amazed. i then told her that i didn't want to get divorced and that i would do everything in my power to change for the better. we ended the conversation with a promise to talk again. it's been almost two days since i have heard from her. should i worry about that or continue to hold off and let her come to me? i really want this to work and am trying not to smother her at this point.
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife YellowJacket: Do you have an agreement that she would contact you? You just said in your post that you'd talk again. Is there any chance she's waiting for you to contact her?
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife Change4better: Don't we all hate the Cat and Mouse games, I would wait another day, then call her, but please do not sound desperate, or those long 8 months of accomplishment will FELL like a waste, when in reaity its not. Bottom line, may seem that she's playing the cat and mouse game, i wouldn't fall into that game. Are you guys divorce, seperated?
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife irishman33: thanks for posting YJ and C4B~ i appreciate your feedback. we are not legally separated or divorced. in fact neither of us has pursued it. i ended up calling her a little while ago because of a call i received....she gave my number out. i was upbeat and told her that i cared.
i had a tendency to really be all over her.....calling, stopping by, etc. i am no where like that now. i have really distanced myself and am trying to let her find out what she wants. like i said, the call the other day really made me think that reconciliation is a possibility.
Re: Crazy situation, crazy wife tlamb: Hey Irish,
I've been off the boards for a few days and missed you post. I just started a seperation with my wife of 10 years. It was extremely difficult at first, but I feel I'm in a better place now.
I give you a great deal of credit, you should be proud of yourself for sticking it out for this long. I question whether I will be able to make it that long if it comes to that.
Stay with it, but don't let your guard down for now. Stay the course, it seems to be moving in the right direction.
TLamb
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